Author	Thread: Reconciliation?
IaoKim View Profile History	Reconciliation? Posted : 18 Apr, 2011 08:33 PM So out of the blue one of my former best friends almost girlfriend messages me "for old times sake" to "see how I've been." It would be a very long story to give all the details here but essentially she broke off all contact with me about a year and a half ago. Previously we had been very good friends throughout high school and college, eventually we both recognized that we had feelings beyond friendship for each other and committed to a serious relationship with the same basic principles of a courtship. She was what I thought to be a strong Christian woman from all the years I had known her and I was very close to her parents (her father was also a pastor). At the time she was living out of state, we had plans to ask for her parents permission to formally enter a relationship when she came back to town during an extended break. However, things did not even last that long. A few days later she pulls a 180. I forget exactly why since it was quite a few years ago. I do remember she became very argumentative and she would twist everything I said against me. Needless to say I was taken completely by surprise, this was not the person I had come to know from all those years of friendship! We had both always been very opinionated but always managed to keep that in check in a Christian manner. Things pretty much spiraled down out of control and she cut contact with me. After giving her space I tried reaching out to her to renew our friendship and finally get some straight answers but none of my attempts were successful. Until the "last straw" and she cut off contact again and I let her go completely. It has been a year and a half free of that sort of drama and I have made peace with it. It was hard to let her go because I cared about her a lot. Now she messages me out of the blue. What is the deal? My gut says to delete her message and let the past remain in the past. What I would think is my better nature is calling me to show her the same love Christ showed me and reach out to her again if only to just be friends. I will be praying about this decision but I there are quite a few people here on the forum's whose opinions I respect and whom I can trust to give me biblically centered advice. (And yes this was the short summary version of the story:rolleyes:) Post Reply
View Profile History	Reconciliation? Posted : 20 Apr, 2011 05:35 PM Go with your gut, Iaokim---- I'd forgive from a distance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Reconciliation? Posted : 21 Apr, 2011 10:47 AM All I can say( since everyone on here made wonderful posts that I can't even beat with their great opinions on this) is that you should give her another chance.Why? because you don't know at this time if this is the woman that God has for you.Just like BCP said,IT IS BEST TO PRAY,because sometimes The Lord gives us things that we are not sure at times it's for us becauseof how things have ended out or looks like it's not working out right or it's not coming at all,THAT'S THE TIME TO PRAY! @ Pixy,your post made me want to cry! :( :( smh. Post Reply

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