Author	Thread: Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman?
Futurepastor2010 View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 11:02 AM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? This is the last question I promise! lol Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why. or why not? To all the Ladies that reply, Thank You and God Bless You! Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 12:52 AM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Petrifying. Growing up, I said I would never be a teacher, a preacher, or a missionary. Well, I have been a teacher for 20 years now, was a full time missionary for a while....and having served as a missionary, know something of the fishbowl the pw lives in. Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? I cannot speak for most women. For me, he would REALLY have to be certain he is called. An inkling of an idea of a calling....I think not. However, if he is and God says...then it is what it is. Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? Refer to the above and the fishbowl. Also, being on call 24/7 and abandoning my career in favor of his. Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why. or why not? In for a penny, in for a dime. God has the best plans, so, scared or not, here I come. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 09:20 AM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? *I can't speak for most women, but for myself, I would definitely be open to being a pastor's wife. Like Godslamb said, being a pastor's wife would take stepping out in faith, which is scary because you are letting God take control (that is always scary to me and something I struggle with). Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? *Again, I can't speak for most women, but I would not shy away from a person's occupation. As long as I feel God calling me towards the individual, then it doesn't matter to me what he does for a living. Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? *I do believe that being a pastor's wife isn't for everyone. Like others have said, the wife will be involved in the husband's ministry. It takes sacrifice, like all service, but not everyone is cut out to serve in the same way. Everyone has different spiritual gifts, so for some, being a pastor's wife might not be the best way for them to use their talents to glorify God. Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why or why not? *Yes, I would, especially if it's youth ministry!! I may not be the most outgoing girl on the block, but I do like working with people. For me, being a pastor's wife could be a fun, rewarding challenge! :) Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 11:13 AM I have a ministry, as do we all! I am learning each day what it is. However, with the personality, and ways God gave me I don't see it EVER becoming Pastor's wife! When I was a teen, my First Love, "and he will always have a little part of my heart" was interested in some kind of ministry. He was seeking a carieer in music at the time. We broke up, as young folks do, and he went on to become a full-fledge, full- on Minister!!!!!!! Does it all at small church, And heads part of Southern Baptist Association!! I would NEVER be good at this, or even want to! His beautiful wife, however, does it all, right by her man, AND LOVES IT!!!!!!!!!!!! God is so very good,AND KNOWS WHAT HE'S A' DOING!!!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 04:46 PM I don't think it is the role of pastor's wife that woman are scared of - rather the expectation place upon the wife of a pastor. The wife of a pastor isn't primarily there to serve the church, but to love and support her husband. As a man training for the pastorate, this is what I'd want from my future wife. Churches place a lot of unfair and unrealistic expectation upon their pastor(s) and thus the wife then takes up some of the work. If churches realised this, that their pastors are not superhuman and cannot attend their every beck and call, then the wife of the pastor can attend to her family and her husband, rather than taking up some of the work load unnecesssarily burdened upon the pastor. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 2 Dec, 2010 06:42 AM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman?/ Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? I think it very much depends on the woman. I wouldn't go looking for a preacher/pastor/missionary, but wouldn't be scared off by someone who felt called in that direction. Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? The thought, having witnessed or experienced situations they would not want to face, and sometimes just being honest that they don't have that call. Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why. or why not? I would, but I would do so with more caution than I would date most people. Both for the sake of his ministry, in respect for his calling, and because... I've seen men use "I'm a preacher" as a means of attracting women and getting them to trust them more quickly. Conversely, I've seen women go gaga over a man because he "had a call" who were in no way called to preach--they were reaching for an office or position, not dedicated to the work of God. I've heard the opposite also sometimes happens, that "I'm a preacher" can make it harder to get a date, but that's not what I've seen. So I'd be more hesitant. I believe we are all ministers, but I don't feel led to minister by teaching Sunday School, playing piano, putting on programs and so forth. I prefer to work with those who've been hurt in the name of religion. That could lead to some uncomfortable situations between me and a pastor-husband. I'm also not one to open my home to everyone, and "given to hospitality" is a Biblical requirement of a leader. These things would have to be carefully and prayerfully considered before things got serious. But none of them would prevent me from going on a few dates and getting to know him. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 3 Dec, 2010 10:06 AM I don't feel it's personally scarry because I am in a full time ministry position but that person needs to prayerfully consider all sides. The expectations that can be placed on a pastor's wife can be challenging. I have discovered that it's a 24/7 role and that can impact a marriage and family relationships. Congregations expect quite a bit and you are always under the microscope for everyone to criticize. There is a lot of sacrifice that comes with being in ministry. But if it's your calling... there is nothing you can do to stop what God has planned. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 14 Dec, 2010 07:20 PM I AM A PRAYER WARRIOR SO I THINK THAT CONSTANTLY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND WHO IS IN THE MINISTRY EXTREMELY IMPORTANT BUT I BELIEVE THAT IF THE IDEA OF BEING A PASTORS WIFE IS SCARY THEN ITS IMPORTANT TO ADDRESS WHY AND GET TO THE SOURCE OF WHY ITS SCARY INSTEAD OF JUST DEALING WITH THE SYMPTOMS OF IT. i BELIEVE IN PRAYER AND A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. SANDY Post Reply
churchgirl127 View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 26 Dec, 2010 06:27 PM Yes for some it is. They aren't called to be a pasters wife. It's not an easy life and most women could not handle it. In fact it may be the hardest job in the whole church. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 6 Jan, 2011 11:15 PM No, I dont think it would be if the women is open to what God has in store for her also. If the women knows our lives are in his hands to use us the way HE sees he needs to. I would think becoming a Pastors wife would have some ups and downs. Like she would have to admire a man who's passion is God and trying to help others relationship to HIM. How much more can you admire a man for? As well as if he is a Pastor, he must know how to communicate and understand people and that should also improve a marriage too. But the down side, would be relocating when needed. Our local Youth Pastor was the best man in the world for the students. He had to transfer 3 hours away, and his wife has to move away from her mom and dad after just having a baby. That would be hard to give up family for, even if its for Gods work. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 11:46 AM I believe that the lady might not know thats where God is calling her until she gets to know someone who is. Just because she might not have that calling on her life at that time, doesn't mean that God won't give it to her. From experience, I didn't feel called to be a worship leader but, it happened and God equipped me to do that job. Post Reply

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