Author	Thread: Are you tired of...
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 06:47 PM ...carrying conversations? I don't know if most of us ladies experience this or if it's pretty much just me, but I am getting very tired of carrying conversations. There are a few guys I talk to with whom I have good conversations, but it seems like the majority of guys who message me either never ask questions, write VERY short messages, or worse give one-word answers. I am tired of trying to carry conversations with guys whose profiles make them seem like someone I want to talk to. I don't know if they're just duds or if it's a "guy thing," and if it's a "guy thing" then does anyone have advice for how I can coax a decent conversation? Another question is, what are some things guys (or girls if you're a guy and are willing to share your input as well) have said that make it seem like they're trying too hard to impress you? That's another thing that annoys me... Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 06:13 AM "Do you think the online scenario further inhibits conversation? Or do you think it helps?" Yes, inhibits. All you are reduced to are words on a screen. If you are a bad speller, don't write well, a bad typist ----- these can all make a huge difference in how you come across and are perceived. Very unfair, when you may be a super great person. All that body language and tone of voice and eye contact is lost online. It makes for some challenges when trying to communicate. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 06:19 AM I get tired of the non-conversational situations too. Generally I pose questions that require longer answers, and if they don't respond with longer answers I simply begin responding with the same length and thought they do. Soon, they disappear. For some people it's easier to carry on written conversations. For others it's easier to talk in person. I sympathize with the ones that just don't type or aren't writers, but I haven't discovered a safe way to start a relationship with them online. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 06:34 AM Wow, thanks everyone! This is super helpful. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 06:47 AM This bothers me also. Most times it just fizzles. Have you ever had someone who asked to instant message you and did the same thing? I think one thing to consider is, going through this over and over. For some people they are tired of having the same conversations with each woman online over and over and nothing comes onf it. These are in many cases the same people who say. I tried to talk to a girl and she just dissappeared. Some people sabotgae themselves from what they really want and make the things they prophecy about a relationship a reality without realising it. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 08:31 AM It's pretty frustrating. When I as still "looking", it was super hard to find interesting conversation. You've probably had this happen, but more often than not, the other person would even drag my conversation attempts down. It would just become dead/uninteresting and there was really no way to get some energy into it. Thankfully, conversation is a great sign to tell whether or not you're compatible with someone. If you can't keep a conversation going with someone, chances are pretty high that you are not compatible on any level. Even just to be "online friends". I really think that attraction plays a huge role in conversation too, because a lot of the time, I found I was just not attracted to the person and I had no incentive to even try to get their attention after awhile. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 08:55 AM "Do you think the online scenario further inhibits conversation? Or do you think it helps?" Inhibits! There are so many times when I don't write what I would have normally said - possibly because I'm one of those who doesn't think before speaking, but typing and seeing what I'm writing gives me the chance to take it back. Which is what I do alot so I can modify what I was GOING to say with something that seems better. Probably isn't much better, but I'm sure other people do it. hmm would this be like giving a wrong impression of me - someone thinking I'm smarter than I am? Probably should just delete this.... :) Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 02:49 PM Yes, I'm tired of it. I have an on-site email conversation going right now with a guy. It started out fine, and we were answering each others' emails within 24-36 hours; we both were writing substantial amounts, and the conversation was interesting. For the past couple weeks, though, his messages have been getting shorter and he's been taking longer to send them. He has also quit asking me questions, and has been giving vague answers to my questions. The conversation is dying, and I'm the one keeping it alive...but I won't do it for much longer. I'm not really feeling a "click" there anyway; maybe he's feeling the same way. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 02:58 PM It's likely nerves. The less someone says, the less likely they will say the wrong thing. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 04:42 PM Or perhaps he has Aspergers. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 05:06 PM I must agree with everyone here... over 90 percent of communication is lost in a text based only reality (online). When a person cant see body language or hear tone, inflection, word stressing, eye contact, facial expression, and all the other aspects of conversation way too much is often times lost and misunderstandings can easily happen, interest can be quickly lost. I haven't had much luck with keeping conversations going here either. I'm not sure if I'm being too wordy (as I tend to write lengthy emails) or if I just really am "that" boring of a person LOL. Guess we'll see as time goes on and my inbox remains empty... Post Reply

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