Its wise to put the bread crumbs close together for men, cause we dont get it at times, or some dont get it all the time.
Do ya'll ever confront "creeps" who claim to be Christians in a Matt 18:15. I remember a woman in our singles group who was having a problem with a "socialy unintelligent" young man. He wouldn't leave her alone, and she wanted one of us to come along side him, and coach him. But none of us would do it cause she kept avoiding him and the conflict. Now I think about it she was being a gossip, and very ungodly about it.
Hopefully God will give me an oppertunity to walk with him how to be a man of God.
*Disclaimer* I dont like it when men do that stuff to ya'll. It's irritating to me, and I wish you better than that :)
Yeah - bad grammar. I'm talking about this kind of thing: "yu re pretty lady who I attracted to very much and god wants us to be together you re first one never done this before pls write back soon you have pretty eyess and god wants us to be togethr."
That is an example of what I'm talking about with bad grammar. No one is perfect and God knows I'm not the best speller, but the above gives a glimpse as to the depth of bad grammer I'm talking about.
A creepy guy doesn't SEE or HEAR bread crumbs. A creepy guy will not acknowledge you are saying "I'm not interested - we are not compatible". A creepy guy is only interested in telling you want he wants to -- to overwhelm you with his words and compliments so you give in.
Yes, I have confronted "Christian" men who obviously exhibit non-Christian behavior. They have put me off, argued with me, pretended ignorance...... etc. Blah. They are time-suckers and I avoid them.
1. Ask me for my number right away and when I say I am not comfortable. Keeping asking me and telling me you are a great christan guy and it is better for you. Wen I stll refuse tell me that something is wrong with me for not trusting a total stranger.
2. Tell me that you have lied in some of what is in your profile (prior marriages, children, age), because you can never be to careful on these dating sites. even though you have no picture online and there are quite a few men in the state of CA.
3. Tell me after 1 date you went to church and cried and prayed for an hour and God told you I was the one for you.
4. Proceed to call me everyday several times a day after you have told me what is above and I tell you I do not think it will work out. Women love when "creepy christian men keep calling" it makes us feel so safe.
5. Preach sermons to me and tell me all of the problems with the church today. It really shows me how spritual you are. I am impressed with a first conversation we have you shouting over the phone telling me all the ills of the christian church and not letting me get a word in. I cannot wait to have another conversation with you.
6. Push for intimacy to fast. Tell me you love me wen we have not met. Tell me all the things you have noticed about my personality just from reading my profile. I just love a man who can give insincere flattery.
7. First date try to get me to your house for you to cook for me. When I tell you I am not comfortable with that. You announce that you have roomates that will be there and I need to trust more. Me and 3 starnge men..How romantic and so not "creepy"
I agree with Godslamb's posts. A "creep" is someone who jumps into your personal space with no thought to your level of comfort or well-being. They are self-focused. Any compliments or interest they express in your opinion is not real but only a means to further their own agenda.
Someone who isn't a creep may pay a sincere compliment, but it won't be outrageous or inappropriate. Then they will move on to finding out about you...your interests, opinions, thoughts...and they will communicate with you...talk and LISTEN. They will talk about themselves in a realistic manner and won't copy and paste from their profile into an IM or email.
@Rabbit...Yes, there have been times that I've confronted. There have also been times that I've been left speechless by the sheer ridiculousness of the situation. The problem with confronting...THEY DON"T LISTEN!...they have no interest in what you have to say.
Curious..well atleast ya'll who confronted did your part, thats when you get some men that look like me :MrT: to come along side these brothers in Christ. lol believe it or not, by ya'lls accounts we mwn get some female creepers too. its usually the needy always in your breathing space type.
The creepiest creep I ever met stalked me for six years-followed me around the grocery store telling me I was going to hell for not submitting to him by marrying him when he told me to (even though we'd never dated)... stuff like that.
You really don't have to go to that extreme, though. Just refuse to take "no" for an answer.
Send out test e-mails to various accounts hoping to find her e-mail address when she refuses to give it to you.
E-mail her and tell her that you've deleted your CDFF account now that you've found her... when you've only known her for two weeks.
Get mad at her when she says she needs to know you for a certain amount of time before giving out her personal information.
Look at her profile every day, whether you've gotten a message or not. Trust me, if you've viewed her profile 63 times and she's viewed yours 10, you are at least bordering on creepiness.
If you want to not be a creep, respect her. Take things slowly. Remember that for all she knows, you could be sitting in an orange jumpsuit somewhere, with a whole lot of time on your hands. Don't pressure her for information.Take the time to get to know her as a person. Ask relevant quesstions about what she believes or how she feels about a certain topic. Discuss current events, future goals or some favorite hobby that you share an interest in. Don't ask more than once every two weeks for her contact information. Better yet, give her yours and let it go. Tell her you're praying for her or for certain situations she's mentioned in passing. Be an active listener-show genuine interest in what she says or move on to someone you can show genuine interest in. Be confident and independent, not clingy or chauvenistic. Encourage her in her goals or anything she shares. Be yourself.
Send a general message asking about hobbies, etc. In the follow up message reply with: "I can not wait until we get married so we can do those things together."
How to NOT be a creep:
Get to know people. Look beyond hobbies and find out where they stand in their relationship with God. Don't pressure anyone to do something they aren't ready for. Pray to God and ask him to guide you and bless your relationship(s).
