If you dont like a man who uses profanity, but you met a really great person but your starting to notice he has a bit of a potty mouth, would you end it?
Hmmm... good question... I don't know that I could compromise on much doctrinally/theologically. As far as language goes, as long as the guy was working to clean things up, that would be okay. I guess I could compromise on household type stuff... like decorating styles, how to fold the laundry... things like that...
I was out with a man once and right away knew there was no love connection, but we were clowning around and hysterically and wow, the MF word kept flowing out.
He didnt have a clue how horrible it sounded. I dont even know if he realized he was doing it which told me that's just his every day language that I hadnt heard yet until that day.
I dont know if profanity is something you just stop doing. I think it's a heart thing. For myself, I have noticed lately that I just want to cuss really loudly, haha. I guess I've been under alot of pressure, but seriously I need to address that issue in my heart because I definitely dont anger settling in.
I'm pretty sure I could not compromise with theological differences like you guys also said but character things like lying...couldnt do that either. Is being on time a character flaw? I doubt it, but that would drive me up the wall. It wouldnt be a deal breaker though.
I dont like when men constantly make sexual inuendos...come on...it's just bad.
Not so much on the subject of compromise, but still on the topic of using profanity...
I have a close guy friend who wasn't saved until he was 17 (about 10 years ago). He admitted to me that he cussed like a sailor in high school, and that he had been proud of his vocabulary. Once God got hold of him, though, he realized that he could not continue that way, and with God's help he stopped cussing. It's still something he struggles with once in a while, though. He told me this week that there is this great Christian girl he's really interested in, but he knows from mutual acquaintances that she is very particular about the kind of guy she'll date. He asked me, "What if I slip up and cuss in front of her? That's not who I am anymore, but she won't know that." I advised him to be honest with her, and just explain where he came from and how God has changed him so drastically. That's how he handled it when he slipped up in front of me, and I only thought better of him for it.
On the other hand, I went to college with a girl who was raised in a Christian home. She was saved as a child, and even though she fell in with the wrong crowd in high school, she claimed that she had gotten her life back on the straight and narrow and was living for God. But she cussed (and still cusses) like a sailor. The F word would fly during normal conversation. Milder profanity was used liberally. I've known this girl for about 7 years now. Her language gets worse every time I talk to her, to the point that I now avoid her when possible.
Moral of the stories: If I met a guy like the first one I described, I'd have no problem dating him very seriously. (Goodness, I'd date THAT guy if...but that's another story.) However, if I met a guy like this girl I know, I would never be able to date him seriously because I would see no sign of a changed life and changed habits.
I don't really swear but I did struggle w/ it for a time. I went to a secular college and lived in the dorms and had some roommates who swore a lot... And I kinda picked it up a little, w/out even thinking about it. It took awhile to clean things up again... Although I have been known to let a British swear word slip a few times a year. But I'm usually/always alone and it's usually when I accidentally hurt myself... like if I've burned myself or bumped my knee into something really hard. But I try hard not to and always feel guilty when I let one slip.
hysterically and wow, the MF word kept flowing out.