Author	Thread: Affection...from a girl's perspective
bcpianogal View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 28 Apr, 2010 03:38 PM Pixy posted a good topic on affection over in "Ask a Guy." I thought it might be interesting to get the girls' opinions, so here is a modified version of Pixy's question: How affectionate would you like for a guy to be on a first date? Would you want him to hold hands with you? Hug? Kiss? Or not touch at all? At what pace would you want him to progress with affection? Post Reply
View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 02:16 PM Thanks Sos, Your question made me research the origin of the modern day kiss. The origin of the kiss was studied by in the early 20th century by natural historian Ernest Crawley and 19th century anthropologist Cesare Lombroso. These are some of things they found. 1. Both men agree that the origin of the lover's kiss originated form the maternal kiss of mother to child. 2. The kiss seems to be unknown to ancient Egypt, but well established in early Greece and India. 3. Until recently, the lover's kiss was unknown to indigenous peoples like the peoples of Australia, the Tahitians, and many tribes in Africa. 4. In some cultures the kiss was known only in religious and ceremonial acts. Examples, kissing a sacred bible, Pope's ring, and kissing the Blarney stone in Ireland. 5. In the early Christian church, the baptized were kissed in celebration. It was also a gesture of respect. Example, Genesis 50:1 & 2, " And Joseph fell upon his father's face, and wept upon him, and kissed him." "And Joseph commanded his servants the physicians to embalm his father: and the physicians embalmed Israel." Post Reply
View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 04:15 PM Thanks for this topic, pianogal =) It's been fun reading all the replies here. And thanks to babygirl for researching the kissing thing. That's very interesting to know. I'm a little undecided on the affection issue myself, which is part of the reason I posted the topic over in the guy's forum. I enjoy affection a lot. It's my primary love language, in fact. And I feel really starved for affection! Haha. On a first date, I think I would be okay with a hug or two, but probably no kissing, I guess. Hand-holding on maybe a 2nd or 3rd date. And I'd probably want to reserve kissing until I'm certain about the seriousness of the relationship. But, I sometimes think that I want to save kissing for marriage (although I've already given away some kisses, sooo...). So, as I said, I'm undecided, which is why it's great to read all these replies and to see what other godly women think is an appropriate way to handle things. Post Reply
View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 07:04 PM When I went over to the Ukraine a few years ago a translator friend introduced me to her family.Her grandmother kissed me a 1,000 times through out my visit.I just smiled,:hearts: Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 04:54 AM I wasn't done with my researched post earlier, but I accidentally hit submit. I didn't get to proofread or anything. :dunce: Okay, I've been reading all the posts and I'm struck by the fact that people have a set law already written in their mind about what they will do, without having even met the person to whom the affection will/may go to. Cool, yall got a plan. I guess I can honestly say, I will go with the flow. When and if I kiss the person will entirely depend on the situation and circumstances. I may kiss after the first date and it may be after the 10th, I won't know til I'm there. I already know that I, under no circumstances will not sin against God by fornication. I didn't say I wouldn't want to or wouldn't be tempted, just not going to. I've been in the situation a few times where I've had to make the decision. I used to dated unsaved men. I've weighed the cost (spiritually and naturally) and it's not worth it. Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 08:58 PM Thanks for posing the Q to us women, bcp.... I'm kinda with 1babygirl.... What I do know though, is, for me... a hug would probably be ok, ending the first date perhaps, hopefully that date confirms a positive chemistry. Holding hands would also be dependent on that chemistry too. I think though, that the kissing I would hold back. To me, each stage of physical expression... I want to know what it means. I can't just exchange saliva with someone kissing-- casually. If we're kissing, I'd hope to think that we've bonded, and more than just casual friends, or casual dating. ~GraceMae Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 1 May, 2010 09:20 AM Grace, that makes sense. For me, I would want to go slowly even with the hugging and hand holding (though not turtle-slow!) just because I would tend to think that each stage of affection means a new stage of the relationship...in addition to making me lose all logic! I know some people don't think it's a big deal, but it is for me! Post Reply
View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 6 May, 2010 05:04 PM Many years ago I read a book titled "I Gave God Time" by Ann Kiemel Anderson. She talks about the fact that she had always known that she would be attracted to the man who when meeting her engages her with a firm hand shake. In her circumstance she was never interested in a heavy amount of physical activity before marriage but wanted him to give her a kiss to sort of reaffirm that there was some sexual chemistry between them. I use her books as strong guides to many situations I have found myself in and those words about their courting seemed appropriate to me. Post Reply
vkjewell View Profile History	Affection...from a girl's perspective Posted : 21 May, 2010 12:51 PM Lessons learned from taking the field trip instead of just learning from the Word of God ~ The boundaries God has graciously provided in his Word regarding intimacy are there to protect the vulnerability of women; and choosing to cross them or "double cross them" will ultimately destroy the respesct and love that might have otherwise been a blessing in a relationship. Until we are married, Sisters, men are our brothers. So in my humble opinion the safest response -- and one which leaves no margin for misinterpretation by anyone -- is that if it's acceptable physical contact from your brother, it's acceptable in the dating relationship. Look forward to all other moments of passion as a gift of marital bonding. Hope that saves someone from certain heartache . . . Post Reply

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