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b2therizz0 View Profile History	I got a question for women about women ... Posted : 23 Apr, 2010 11:30 AM So I got to ask the women out there, I'm wondering if I handled a situation incorrectly that happened to me a couple days ago. I had been emailing a women who lived a little ways away from for a month or so. We started talking on the phone maybe a couple of weeks (3 or 4) around 2 times a week. Now she mentioned during our email sessions that she had some family things that she was doing and my job sometimes causes me to work lots of overtime, so we didn't talk everynight. And I'm just taking things slow. We were making plans to meet during some vacation time I had coming up. Ok, so she asks me the other day if I thought she was pretty. I gotta be honest and say that her pictures she posted on her page were a little fuzzy or taken from faraway. But I thought that things she said in her profile and what pictures she did post, that there was enough potential to try and make initial contact. So, I didn't really know how to reply to her asking if I thought she was pretty. So I fumbled over some answer that was basically "We'll see when me meet" ... I'm mean, I'm being cautious ramping up my feelings about someone that I've never met. I'm trying not to get my heart broken. Plus, as a Christian, I'm trying not to make decisions with my eyes only. Okay, so then she tells me to stop leading her on and wasting her time. This after I have around 50 emails from her. How am I wasting her time? How can she say something like this? I mean she never told me to call her everyday? I mean, how should I have handled this? Post Reply
mcmarilyn View Profile History	I got a question for women about women ... Posted : 24 Apr, 2010 12:40 PM I think that taking things slow is fine myself especially if you bot have busy schedules and have a problem arranging time to meet that is a good time for both of you. A first meeting can be pretty stressful and each person does not really know what to expect. A person can send you a picture of themself that was taken years ago and not even look the same. I don't know how to comment about her asking you if you thought she was pretty because I would never ask that question myself. Maybe you could have commented that you thought she was attractive and you could not tell from the picture because of the quality. Ask her to send you another picture. I'm thinking that she is anxious to get the relationshp past emails and really wants to move ahead to the physical meeting. Could be that past experience is an issue and she has been led on. Just put her mind at rest if you are serious about meeting with her. If that's what you really want and explain that you have a busy schedule and not leading her on. I dont think 50 emails and talking is alot of time wasted if you live so far apart. To be honest, long distance relationships take alot of work and there has to be some level of understanding that. It's not like you can just get in a car and drive to the persons house or meet for coffee. I think she needs to be little more patient. I met the man I am seeing the same way. Started out on a website, then a couple of emails as freinds. After I was divorced and needed a freind to talk to and he was so supportive. It took off from there. It's been difficult because of the distance. The first meeting was tense for me because got up early to catch an early flight to meet him and was so self concious and had very low self esteem from going through a nasty divorce.Even though we sent each other pictures of ourselves, you really don't know what to expect. He put all my fears to rest our time together was great. Post Reply
View Profile History	I got a question for women about women ... Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 09:05 AM I think she wasnt understanding. Why dont you copy n paste your post and email it to her, that will help you explain what your thoughts are. Post Reply
b2therizz0 View Profile History	I got a question for women about women ... Posted : 4 May, 2010 04:00 PM Yeah, no need to apologize to her ... So here's the update on what happened for those interested in knowing. I apologized to her, she accepted and gave me a second chance. Over the next 5 days, I talked to her for at least an hour on the phone on 4 of those days. I took Sunday off because I usually "unplug" on Sunday. So anyways, the last day I talked to her I said that I wouldn't be able to talk the next 2 days, because I had some prior commitments. The next time I was going to talk to her, she said not to bother her because I didn't call her the past 2 days. I was flabbergasted, to say the least, I distinctly remember telling her I wouldn't be able to talk those 2 days. So either she is extremely clingy, has issues with abandonment and things I was leaving her, or certifiable ... I can't tell. But if someone "breaks up" with you after never meeting you in person, because you told her that you couldn't talk for the next 2 days ... I mean, what would happen if I actually married her and forgot to bring her chocolate with the roses I bought for her on her birthday? Case closed ... Post Reply
View Profile History	I got a question for women about women ... Posted : 1 Jul, 2010 08:16 PM I have to agree with that last post. Being a woman, I can honestly say that if she is asking if you think she is pretty and you haven't even met face to face means that there is something wrong (self esteem, etc). It sounds like everything that you tried to do was genuine and maybe your initial reply wasn't the greatest, you tried to clear things up with explanation. This is where the "online relationship" gets hard. Normally after 2 months, there is more to a relationship when the two have at least seen each other. I don't know if I am making sense but all I am trying to say is that you two probably wouldn't have been happy if she would have been understanding. From your profile and from your story you were doing the right thing by following your heart and not judging on looks alone; it doesn't sound like that was enough for her. :) don't fret, everything happens for a reason! Post Reply

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