Author	Thread: First Contact
Life_Happens View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 8 Mar, 2010 07:57 PM I'm curious what you think the best way is to know a guy is interested in you. I would think an email would be best, but is that too forward? Anyone, prefer a wink or being "favorited"? What about a few visits to the profile show you are interested - or is that just creepy? Post Reply
View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 10:04 AM travel I felt the same way but just give it time. God protects us too, so dont be offended just know that daddy is protecting you from something that may not go anywhere. I have met friends on here and it makes it worth it :) Blessings Post Reply
View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 12 Mar, 2010 08:59 AM You should just introduce yourself, make it short.ask about her What she likes to do.Make 1 or 2 comments from her profile. I told one woman that she should be more honest about her age. I said she looked 10 years younger.Then I said why did you lie about your age.She wrote me back and said thank you.I made her day.:waving: Post Reply
trubeliever70 View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 12:12 PM i agree the winks r fine but send a email too. and stop with the constant profile looks and nothing else it is kind of creepy:angeldevil:. something else when someone says they r not interested in dating u, let it go and leave her alone now that drives me crazy and i just dont have that far to go:ROFL:. even if i am not interested in dating someone i like to be friends but some just cant handle it. O well is all i can say.:bouncy: Post Reply
Eindoodle View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 14 Mar, 2010 04:26 PM I'm curious then if you all prefer a message as a first contact, should there be a standard message to send to everyone (the intro to myself) then a few questions to the lady I am sending it to (making it personal)? Or should every message be purely personalized? I'll have to admit that I haven't given much of an intro to myself in a lot of the messages as I assumed if they were interested they would view my profile or ask me questions back. Is this the wrong train of thought? Post Reply
View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 14 Mar, 2010 06:52 PM dear eindoodle, welcome to the forums. ole cattle Post Reply
IamIsabel View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 14 Mar, 2010 07:02 PM Travel, Even if I am not interested I send a Thank You back to the man who winked me or an explanation about why I prefer not to stay in contact with him. I do not have time to talk to all sorts of men I am not interested in just to be nice. I think this network is used by people for different reasons. I like to use the Chat Forums for friends, not personal notes unless I have an interest in that person. By the way, I prefer a wink or a note. If I receive a wink from someone I may be interested in, I will thank them and may add a line to stimulate more contact. If I am not interested then I usually just say thank you for the wink. So for me, winks first. Post Reply
trubeliever70 View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 17 Mar, 2010 04:30 PM eindoodle, I dont like it when i am micromanaged, one email does not fit all. when i am emailed i do look at the profile and if im interested then i will email back. but for me i like meeting ppl on here even if im not interested in dating. so just send a message that u would like to get and if she is not interested then she must not be worth the time. Blessings. Post Reply
justsarah View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 22 Mar, 2010 02:39 PM I don't like to be "winked" at. It would make me laugh (in a good way) if it was in person, however, it seems kind of superficial here. If you like a profile then just send an e-mail and be casual about it. Post Reply
itravelabunch View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 23 Mar, 2010 08:00 AM word Post Reply
lionandlamb View Profile History	First Contact Posted : 29 May, 2010 09:02 PM Oh yeah. Send an email. But you have to remain true to your own personality. What would you do if you saw her in person? If you would never go up and talk to her, then don't send an email. Maybe you like doing things slow and letting her see you looking, be mysterious, wink a little later, and then say something. You demonstrate the ability to restrain impulsiveness. I am not impressed if i get a wink 30 seconds after being viewed. That is not special. You didn't even read it. Some guys want the women to come to them, but to me if you only wink it seems like you are too shy to speak, or insecure. It is very manly in my opinion to just break the silence. Confidence is very attractive. Ten to one I go for the guy who wrote to me. And writing an email is not asking someone out. It is just talking. You decide where it goes from there. Whatever you do, women like to know what is going on, so just saying what is on your mind is good. If u don't state your intentions somewhat early, she thinks you just want a pen pal. If you are shot down, you are able to move on that much quicker. How many times did Edison fail, and he said, well, now I know what doesn't work. Sometimes I get a wink from someone I would be interested in, but I don't respond, because I wouldn't wink at him in person, i would smile. And i wouldn't go up and talk to him, i would wait for him to talk to me. I might write back and say hi or something little. I say more if his profile makes him look really approachable. I am confident, but I am not going to chase a guy down. I have winked back once. You never know with me. Yes, i breach the rules and sometimes am the one to break the silence, I know sometimes guys appreciate encouragement. They can't be expected to do all the work, but I do prefer a man to lead things so I am certain I am not creating something that he doesn't want to be there. It seems to be the design. You know, the hunt. Post Reply

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