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skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 28 Jan, 2010 01:55 PM Dear ladies: My best friend has had weight trouble her whole life. Last year she went on a new diet attempting to lose 80 lbs. She has never been on a "real date." Not even proms. (Her and I mutually have no feelings more than friendship for each other, yes, it's been discussed.)I promised her that if she made her goal, I'd personally take her on a date. She lost 50 lbs!!!!!!! and only gained back ten. She has since quit the diet, and hasn't been gaining the weight back!!! I know her well enough to know she'll probably never get back on the diet, and she's halfway there. My question is two-fold: 1. Should I still take her out on the date? 2. If I do, should I still go "all out"? (Limo, broadway play, five-star dinner, flowers, etc)? You've all been amazingly helpful and honest in my previous posts, and I'm really coming to value the wealth of Christian women's opinions that I have access to via this site, so please help me out here. Many thanks, skinny Post Reply
View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 28 Jan, 2010 08:57 PM Well, it seems she lost half her goal weight. So, scale back your ultimate plans about that much. My suggestions are to find a restaurant that is halfway to upscale -- in the SF Bay Area that would be about $40 per person for dinner. Does she have a fave kind of food? Does she like the city? Water? Live music? Find a restaurant that will appeal to her. If you have a good enough car - drive that. If not, borrow a friend's better (bit more upscale) car for the evening. Wear a suit. Bring her a flower -- not a corsage because that would be a bit too much like a prom or "date". Ask a florist what would be best - perhaps a very small (just a few flowers) bouquet with special flowers in them. She can put them in a vase and remember the night for as long as the flowers last. Go somewhere after dinner. Again, scaling back you don't want to go to a play or concert. Does your City have low-cost or free concerts in a park? Is there a night market/shopping area (NOT a mall, mind you) where you can scroll and look around? Some places will have live musicians and street performers and lots of people. Ok, now you have to report back and let us know how it went. Good luck! I hope she appreciates a good friend like you. Post Reply
View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 29 Jan, 2010 02:16 AM You've been given some excellent advice here. One thing I would like to add is that this may become one of her most "memorable" nights. You need to be aware that this "platonic" relationship you two have may change dramantically that night and your good deed may end up being punished. My suggestion is to avoid any "romantic" settings and definitely no limo or tux or even flowers...unless you feel you know her well enough for pent-up love not to "bloom" at the wrong time. And yes...treat her like The Lady she is...there I would go all out...opening doors...pulling out chairs. Find a venue where you can slow dance or better yet...a boom box out on the beach...dancing to the sounds of music and waves (did I say nothing romantic?). Good luck...Bro! Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 29 Jan, 2010 10:18 AM Thank you all, especially prov 31, Godslamb, Archi, and bcp. How y'all like this idea. Yes, I will be renting a car lol. This girl's catholic, and I'm friends with the whole family as well. Get the family to force her to a mass, all dressed up. She'll "drag" me along just the same as many times before, so she'll have no idea what's coming. After mass, a family dinner at something like an olive garden, (for those who don't have them in their area, nice Italian fare with a family "motif") After, split company, family goes home and my friend and I end up at a nice cafe. I want to keep it in public, as much of the advice has been to "show her off." At the cafe, a couple rounds of dessert, followed by a trip to a soccer bar to see an Irish band? She's Irish and proud of it lol! Please be critical, I'm quite open to suggestions, and thank you all so much!!! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 29 Jan, 2010 11:50 AM Since she's lost weight, and you want to continue to encourage her to lose more weight....stick with just one round of dessert! 'Sides, if she's already been to Olive Garden, she probably won't be very hungry for much dessert. Post Reply
vkjewell View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 29 Jan, 2010 06:55 PM Archi must be biting his nails! (Catholic boy) :ROFL: You go, skinny! Show her off as your friend and use the financial guidelines put forth by the very wise Ms. Lamb. You have great ideas! Shoot, I'm jealous! Can I go as your momma? Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 03:07 PM vkjewel? live anywhere near Philly? Lol, I'll buy you dinner if you sit near us and make sure my friend "overhears" you saying something nice about her!!!!!:glow: And Archi-I agree completely with you- opening doors, pulling out chairs, etc, problem is, I already do that, even for guys. And I can guarantee you that when I open a door for a man, I have no ulterior motives, Truly you do have a sense of romance though!!!!!!!!!!!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	lost weight Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 05:21 PM SWB Your plans show a lot of thought and care for your friend. I think they are terrific. I agree you might not want to emphasize dessert (since it is a weight loss issue this whole thing is about), but she can order a drink or decaf coffee -- it is her choice. She does not have to get a dessert. Sounds like you have a great night planned. Good luck and let us know how it goes! Post Reply

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