Author	Thread: How do you approach a girl..?
Admin	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 1 Jan, 2010 06:57 PM Seriously, I've gone on dates before but most have been through friends hooking us up. Simple enough, I've never gotten serious with a girl and I'm ready too now. So here goes, this is for the ladies (and guys, possibly) to help with. I spot a girl at a random place, like a gym, that looks cute. How do I approach her? What if she has a boyfriend? What do I say to her, do I just go up out of the blue and say "Hi, how are you?". Wouldn't that seem odd to just go up to a girl randomly and say "Hi, how are you?". She'd probably just say "Good" then get back to her ordeal. I mean, if I'm at the gym and see a girl, shes working out..I just go up to a sweaty girl and start talking to her while she's on the treadmill? Also, lets say were walking out of the gym and I say how are you..she says "Good", and that's usually the end of it. Please tell me the secret on how I can get a date on my own. I'm tired of people hooking me up, it's never worked out. I'm 22 years old, so I'm still young, but I need advice!! I've tried dating sites, clubs, bars, meetup groups..I can't find anyone!! Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 04:03 PM Of course if it feels wierd don't do it, and i don't know what the set up is, but just visualize yourself saying to her "Hi, I was just wondering if you wanted to go out sometime." and visualize it going well. it doesn't need to be an indepth conversation or 20 questions. I've been trying really hard to avoid using this cliche, but, what the hey, be cool about it. Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 04:08 PM I also meant to say as you edge away your apprehension and self-imposed inhibitions through the visualizing you'll notice more opportunities for which to ask. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 04:21 PM "And I feel like a loser trying to meet someone off a dating site, I mean, how weird would it be to introduce someone to your family and say you met off a dating site?" OK, first of all, dating sites have become quite popular in recent years, so apparently there are quite a few of us who think dating sites are a good thing. Second, I know a lot of married couples who met online. They all seem really happy, and are really perfect for each other. I decided to try online dating because I just simply don't meet a lot of young, single, Christian men. By the way, I think you are correct about not approaching a girl at a gym...I know how I feel about being approached at a gym (yes, it's happened), and, well, let's just say that he didn't get a date with me. I kinda regretted it later...he was cute! Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 07:20 PM remp 25, you wrote "Be the person you want to be. Live the life you want to live. In general be independent, but not isolated. And when in public be energetic, enthusiastic, and positive. " I like that. Just be a "confident" you. You might be nervouse a little, but you've got to start somewhere, right? Enjoy the journey!! :dancingp: then smile afterward! :yay: GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 11:35 AM I don't think my problem is talking to girls. I know how to do that. My problem is finding a girl thats single, and would be interested. When I go to the gym and smile at a girl I have no clue if shes being nice, single, or what not. So, I guess my problem is FINDING single girls, my age. Not talking to them, but finding them. So, how can I do that?? I don't think it's a good idea to just go up to random girl and start talking to her. I think something like singles groups, through a friend, church groups, meetup groups, dating sites even would be the best. It's too akward to just go up to a random girl and start talking to her out of the blue, having no idea who she is. That's too creepy for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 6 Jan, 2010 08:01 PM Just thought I'd jump in here!:waving: I can't say that I'm an expert in approaching, but from a girl's point of view I would have to say that I really appreciate a guy who has the courage to approach a girl and try to start a conversation. For instance, I was sitting in my college advisor's office waiting for my appointment one day and a guy walked into the waiting room. He sat down right next to me, waited a second and then looked me right in the eyes, smiled and asked me some completely normal question about college advising. We kept talking until it was time for my appointment, but I have no idea what we said because I was so blown away by how weirdly cool that was! I think a lot of times it isn't about saying anything particularly cool, it's just about having the confidence to look a girl in the eyes, smile and start a normal conversation. And as far as finding this girl goes, don't stress about it. I'm sure if you look around there are girls your age everywhere.. a cashier, standing by you in line, on the treadmill beside you, a friend of a mutual friend.. No girl I know would be offended by a smile and a comment about how long this line is, and if she smiles and gives something back to the conversation, well there you go! I don't know if it's because I'm from the South, but girls don't do a lot of approaching here so it may just be up to you to make that first contact! Put it in God's hands and don't be afraid to put your prayers into action! Post Reply
View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 7 Jan, 2010 02:53 PM how can you tell if she's single or not? Just stand really still and stare at her for a long time. Try to blink as little as possible. Or you could call madam cleo. If you're too lazy to do it yourself, then hire a private eye to follow her around and see if she's seeing anybody. Check the local paper for bf/gf announcements. Dress up as a delivery man and say "Package for Mrs. (insert last name)" and see if she corrects you. Check for a wedding ring. Sorry. Just having some fun. :laugh: Seriously though (and ladies correct me if I'm wrong) there's really no harm in asking. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	How do you approach a girl..? Posted : 18 Jan, 2010 10:31 AM Unfortunately, confidence goes a long way. Ever try finding a job that just thrusts you right into the middle of everything? Like something as simple as a clerk at a grocery store. For me that's helped me make a lot of friends. I'm pretty quiet myself and it took me years to "Talk" to some of my customers. But now-someone actually brought me cookies for Christmas, hot diggity! I'm learning German, and have actually met a couple of mothers before I ever dated their daughters. That can lead to many an akward moment, but if the mom likes you indepenently of their daughter's feelings, well that goes a long way. I'd avoid the gym. I'd say most girls there are used to getting hit on. Also they're either dressed a certain way, or simply too out of breath to talk. Good luck man!!!! Post Reply

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