Author	Thread: Long distance relationships
liv2luvudeeply View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 29 Dec, 2009 06:59 PM I get lots of contacts from ladies in other states. I've just come out of a short relationship with a wonderful woman that I met here. She lived 100 miles away. She loved her church and was very involved, and I think ultimately, the distance was one of the reasons it didn't work out. So let me hear from you ladies...whether you are open to relocating or not, are you open to a long distance relationship? And how do you see the logistics of that playing out? How far would you go to date someone? Any LD success stories you can share? Anthony Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 30 Dec, 2009 07:09 PM Well, I think LD relationships can very much work, and depends on the hearts of the two involved. Yes, money, time, desires to be together more often than a local relationship, do take a certain level of maturity and patience. BUT, I'll say again, BUT... if this is a God designed setup of two people being together, then I REALLY feel that God will be in the midst. I have commented before I believe, what we desire God truely may fulfill for us. I believe He's got everything picked out, but not probably how we anticipated... ie... everything we ever hoped or desired for in the same city. No, no.... He is able to do more abundantly and exceedingly more than we often could ever anticipate. I don't feel that I want to limit God, and that includes distance. Yes there are circumstances for many where they just cannot move and that is understandable, but for many of us, we stagnate the possibilities of true happiness with God's perfect mate for us because of it. And then God gives the blessing and we are blind to rationalization that LD relationship won't work. Sometimes God is not rational. He just IS. Nothing textbook standard about how He's going to bring my perfect man to me, so I can't exclude anything or anyone. GraceMae Post Reply
vkjewell View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 30 Dec, 2009 09:09 PM Ahem. If you are a woman from Wyoming and you can't hope for a long distance relationship, would someone kindly tell me what I CAN hope for? Cause there's WAY more antelope than folks out here, and most of THEM is married, kids, babies, and the elderly. Ok, I'll lose my Ole Cattle accent now (SniCKer) and crawl out on a very thin limb. If relocation is what a praying Godly man needs from the woman he chooses to love as God loves the church, it certainly seems reasonable that she would WANT to be willing to relocate for such a man as this. My mother and father relocated many times in the course of their 55 years (and counting); and my mother saw each move as a new opportunity to stand by her man. Perhaps this is the first test of a woman's attitude toward allowing her future husband to be the spiritual leader of the home and family . . . Of course, guys, you'd be crazy not to WANT to live in God's Country . . . horses, hunting, fishing, hiking, hang glliding, street music, coffee shops, golf, polo, snowmobiling, 240 days of sunshine and actually knowing everyone in your church family within a year. Now if only there were well paying JOBS riding horses, hunting, fishing, hiking, . . . . I have no illusions that eventually I will probably end up relocating for Happily Ever After. And I will do so with absolute joy. Post Reply
liv2luvudeeply View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 31 Dec, 2009 05:33 AM "Ahem. If you are a woman from Wyoming and you can't hope for a long distance relationship, would someone kindly tell me what I CAN hope for? Cause there's WAY more antelope than folks out here, and most of THEM is married, kids, babies, and the elderly." The antelope are married??? :-) "If relocation is what a praying Godly man needs from the woman he chooses to love as God loves the church, it certainly seems reasonable that she would WANT to be willing to relocate for such a man as this. My mother and father relocated many times in the course of their 55 years (and counting); and my mother saw each move as a new opportunity to stand by her man." Well it's one thing if you're already married to that man for many years, but for single ladies, I think the age of Tammy Wynette has passed. Most women have (many by necessity) careers of their own that they're not willing (and in most cases rightfully so) to give up for a man that could divorce her a few years down the road. I think it's more a practical attitude than a spiritual one. Obviously God can speak and guide us in every situation. In many cases, it's the children of a previous marriage that make things WAY more complicated. This girl I was dating had no family of her own in her city or in her state even, so the only extended family her kids had was with her ex...his parents were the only grandparents and they were GREAT. How could I expect her to uproot those boys from everything they know, and move 100 miles away from their dad, stepmom, step siblings, and two awesome grandparents that love them to death? She would have done it, but I couldn't see it as being right, and I couldn't move there because of my son. These are just some of the reasons God did not ordain divorce. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 31 Dec, 2009 08:41 AM Yup !!! Ima totaly in agreement with yall... Arch- You are a true romantic & gentleman. Its about trusting & havin complete faith in God. If we put God in box then we dont allow Him to guide us an then we could all miss out winnin the prize...an I like prizes from God, there the bestest... Vkjewell- I'd move where you live in a heart beat ifin God told me to an especially ifin Mr. Man that God has for me was there. I'd also enjoy very much chasin down those antelopes...or tryin to lasso them...Ye Hahhhh...teheheh... Grace...You are so spot on. Every time I read somethin you post..well...it justs touches my silly heart...bless your lil' heart thats bigger than the Grand Canyon... Luv2deeply- Careers ??? Its just a job an ima very grateful for mine...I could never be that selfish to think that what I have is more important than what I could recieve...this is the year of Bountyful Blessins an Year of Completion according to the Herbrew Calender. Heck i'd be willin to bus tables an flip flap jacks at the local dinner with flour on my nose and love every minute it...but that's just me.....Luv Ya All...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 31 Dec, 2009 06:12 PM Jude, you wrote: "Heck i'd be willin to bus tables an flip flap jacks at the local dinner with flour on my nose and love every minute it..." And I'm Amening that! There is nothing I would not do (short of kissing Ole Cattle or anything illegal) to be with the woman I Love. Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 31 Dec, 2009 07:48 PM One more thing.... About the career thingy... well, fortunately, I have a field techie job that's all over the US and you know... I've been forced, matter of factly since being on this site, to thinkin' about all the what if's I found somebody who wanted me... Well heck! I could move. I don't have kids.. yes, I've got elderly parents but, if, no, if God has allowed this oppturnity, then don't I trust Him enough to know He will provide the way? Stuttering, flutteriing...ahhhhh.. all the possibilities! Happy New Year everybody!! GraceMae!! Post Reply
antiqueknight View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 1 Jan, 2010 12:14 PM hi! well said by all. as for me distance makes the heart grow fonder. hopefully it works 2 ways on the map.it depends on how truely the couple really want to be in a relationship instead of waiting 50 yrs for someone to move next door so to speak.:laugh: if there is a will there is a way!! good luck to all and the gas prices go down and the air fare goes on sale!!:laugh: Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 1 Jan, 2010 04:26 PM antiqueknight -- Amen to gas prices and airfare!! :goofball: GraceMae Post Reply
liv2luvudeeply View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 1 Jan, 2010 08:41 PM Speaking of airfare, I had a friend who used to work for USAIR, and she got me guest passes once in a while. You had to fly standby, but you could go roundtrip the next day for about 85 bucks. Now its up to about 150, but alas, she does not work there anymore. I have another friend who works for USAIR and immediately family members fly standby (space available) for FREE. So anyone employed by an airline and want to adopt me? Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationships Posted : 2 Jan, 2010 07:22 AM Meow, Arch you do not look like a man.More like a wanna be hooded bandit.I say this in reply to your earlir post here.walking to the litter box is a great distance.Meow,Cats rule dogs drool. Advice from Casper,Chew on your bone.Has your owmer chained you up?:ROFL: casper out------------->:nahnah: Post Reply

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