I asked the guys, so to you I pose the same question. Single or married, lust always lurks around the corner. You can't pretend it doesn't exist in the form of that handsome guy that just passed your path while out running errands, or at the gym while showing off his toned body. How do you initially respond? Look once, and praise God for His beautiful creations? Look twice, and pray for grace, guidance, and forgiveness? Keep looking and deal with the consequences of guilt later? I'm not looking for a textbook answer. I know what the bible says about this. But your honest reaction to this hypothetical circumstance would be appreciated. Thanks to all who participate!
ETHope - Wow ! Interesting question. I gotta "Honestly" say this is not appropriate subject matter for a Man to ask in open Forum of Women..an.."Hypothetical Circumstance" is just Asking for, Romancing and Mis-dirrecting thoughts from women. Its just not right. Its like lettin loose a Weasel in a Hen house...Just not a Good thing...Luv ya all...xo
I want to Appologize to Mr. Hope for Mocking him....(it's one of the things I need to work on) and I hope that he will take this opportunity to clarify just what his intentions were.
cattle, i wouldn't ask my mother or father most of the questions that get asked on forum.
you're comparing apples to hand grenades.
i can't judge the dudes motives.
answer my question. if its a fair question to ask a guy why is not a fair question to ask a woman. what the difference if guy asks it or girl asks it? its on a public forum. both genders can read both threads. lust affects both genders and be heterosexual or homosexual.
i don't know the dude's motives. if his mind is in the gutter, God will deal with him. Maybe you feel you can judge his motives online but im not sure that's a fair shake for him.
like i said, judge carefully what you post before you post it. if you don't feel comfortable sharing on the subject, then dont. thats just common sense. obviously several women post replies without getting inappropriate and i don't know if thats what he was trying to get or not.
i've seen some other threads that produced some personal details that were far more inappropriate.
Let me see if I can give you a better perspective of why my �spider sense� went off on this thread. The dark one doesn�t (and Will�I�m not calling you any names) tell you a boldfaced lie. But rather he places that lie inside of a half-truth or insidiously concealed in a harmless sounding batch of verbose verbiage�.know what I mean?
Will, (for whatever reason) changed the Tone and Tenor of the question when he ask the woman on this site. When he asked the Woman the same question he �Raced it up a bit� adding certain suggestive phrases. Why the need to�.unless you wanted to instill a thought into their minds. None of the Ladies went that way, because they are Christian Women.
Read both question:
For the Men�..
Single or married, lust doesn't change. How do you respond to its dark pull? Do you look once, and move foward? Do you look twice, and pray? Do you keeping looking when a certain person captures your attention in ungodly ways, and try to make up for the "bad" you just did? I know what God's Word says about lust, and the solutions for it....but how do you really handle it when confronted with lust-filled opportunities every day? Be honest......
Not a offensive or suggestive question at all! The closest he comes is with
��certain person captures your attention in ungodly ways��
Nothing about �toned bodies� or �Praising God for His beautiful creations� or insinuating �consequences later� (what type of consequences?).
For the Women�
I asked the guys, so to you I pose the same question. Single or married, lust always lurks around the corner. You can't pretend it doesn't exist in the form of that handsome guy that just passed your path while out running errands, or at the gym while showing off his toned body. How do you initially respond? Look once, and praise God for His beautiful creations? Look twice, and pray for grace, guidance, and forgiveness? Keep looking and deal with the consequences of guilt later? I'm not looking for a textbook answer. I know what the bible says about this. But your honest reaction to this hypothetical circumstance would be appreciated. Thanks to all who participate!
Seems to me that the question was posed differently to the Women (for whatever reason I can only conjecture about).
And why no scripture...just your own words describing what makes you lust and how you deal with it? How descriptive can you get on this site?
It really reminds me of the kid back in grade school that
would get the girls to contort their bodies trying to do things that he told them they should be able to do�.just to watch them contort their bodies!
Again�why the need to spice it up for the women? Ill intent�probably not � subconscious aberration.....we�ll see?
Dear Fury...No one is judgeing here. We are shareing perspectives as humans do. Some see nothing wrong here. Others do. I find it disrespectful. Thats my perspective. Leme put it this way...Dudes...I would never ask a guy in open Forum or Private about Lust issues...Why would I want to inadvertantly open the Gates of Hell an mis-dirrect your thoughts on somethin that is of the flesh and not of the Spirit ??? Does that make sense?...anywho...luv ya all..xo
dear folks, after alot of prayer and thoughts on this.. anyone asking a lady in public how do you handle lust , should be answered back with what i like to call noyb none of your business. or any man that asks a lady in private how does she handle lust ,whether it be me or you or any man , her answer back should be noyb none of your business.. unless she has your wedding ring on her finger and you both have said your i do s... cause till then its truely none of your business...
also that should be a mans answer should he be asked publically by anyone or privately by a lady unless they are indeed married...none of your business.
so my answer should have been on the mans question none of your business ,same as it should be here.
I do appreciate the people who responsed to this thread in the appropriate way the post was created for. I see how in hindsight the wording was different in the woman's section to this thread vs. the man's section of the same thread. But there was no improper intention or ill-motives with that. For the men and women alike who saw that clearly, I appreciate your objectivity, sincerity, respect, and the intelligent way of handling the matter that you did, both in the flesh and in the spirit. It's not easy to do, but I commend you for that.
This thread about lust in no way possible was never meant to be a discussion or debate about fornication. I understand those boundaries well. Most people on here do. At the end of each thread, I did pose a few questions that I believe to the best of my knowledge were nearly identical. In the simplest of ways, a yes or no answer was all I really was seeking, for anyone who chose to answer the thread about lust. I wasn't looking for intimate details about anything improper. Things were blown way out of proportion, for the wrong reasons, taken in the wrong way, and handled in a very fleshy way. For the men and women alike who did answer the lust thread in an apporpriate, objectifying, and compassionate way, I appreciate what you said. I thank the people who who took the time to understand me, and the intentions behind the thread. We all owe that to each other, and at all times.
1- The thread wasn't about fornication.
2- I would never ask a man or woman about that topic in person, public, or on forum discussions.
3- I wasn't seeking intimate details about fornication. A yes or no, would have been a genuine response to those questions I posed just as much as the other insightful answers were according to your walk of faith and life experience.
4- I have already aplogized numereous times for the conflict
that thread created.
Objectivity is always a good thing when responding to people's post. I wasn't seeking to perserve my image, position, or authority, but a deeper appreciation and understanding for people is always something I seek!
