Author	Thread: When is it stalking?
Admin	When is it stalking? Posted : 11 Oct, 2009 06:11 PM Ladies: i realize this question has been asked before, however, i would like to personalize it, as i suspect i want to hear the answer i want, not the one rolling around my head. i've been talking with a man for a few months, first as email and started on phone for about three times while i was traveling in September. Since then i've sent him two emails, that haven't been opened, and left three messages on his phone. He left me one message on my phone. I'm wondering how many more times to try to connect and when does it become stalking (lol) with the message leaving. He is an educated man and very busy with his work(works 60-90 hr wks). I believe him around 87% (never know :( ). He has to travel as he has clients from many states. I'm also wondering if i don't call, etc., and i'm "waiting" will he think i have started to be disinterested. In my first phone message i left, i stated he knew my number to call. The answer i would like from you is one that supports my desire to continue with our baby steps of talking on the phone. Opps, should mention in my second phone message, i was trying to meet him "live" while i was iin arizona for my daughter's school ceremony this past weekend... which is part of my concern of no reply when it was time sensitive. I would say i wasn't using any pressure.Today, i left the third message and think i should write him off. Certainly, i don't have any expectation from this on-line observation site (where we display ourselves to be observed! and not too much "dating")-which leads to why i am concerned about this typical experience. Sorry, advice about "waiting" for God's direction and choice, doesn't do it for me... i absolutely thought my ex-husband was slated for the job, and have the rationale to support it. One final note: i also stated, i think in an email, if he wasn't interested to let me know as a courtesy, just as i would return the polliteness. oh, :dunce: i just remembered i also left a text message... boy, i think i am stalking!!!:goofball: Finally, thanks and i suspect it's nice to know that we all get to experience the awkwardness of on-line dating, no matter the background or expectations. And i think i answered my own question with writing it all out. Have a good week! Post Reply
View Profile History	When is it stalking? Posted : 15 Oct, 2009 07:20 PM Dear Goldenstarfish, If he's online reading his e-mails but not responding that's a different story which I don't think that's the case here. If he's not returning your calls and text messages not to forget that you offered to meet in person & he didn't respond, I'm sorry to have to say this, but I think you do need to let him go. I don't think you've stalked him.....but just to be safe you might want to let him make the next move. God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	When is it stalking? Posted : 15 Oct, 2009 09:59 PM It is always fun when there is so many contributions (especially brief comments - lol). I will take ya all's advice and move on. Even though his profile states he is looking for a marriage partner, it may be more true a pre-made partner...but heck what's the fun in that? Post Reply
View Profile History	When is it stalking? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 09:29 AM Stalking is when you follw them to their home and say I am the only one for you.Nobody else is,I can not live with out you, They call you every 5 minutes.You have to call the police to get rid of them. Hopefully you never did that to a guy.Did you?:dunce: :boxing: Post Reply
View Profile History	When is it stalking? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 06:30 PM dgrimater- you are funny:laugh: but isn't it that there is something they call "cyber stalking?" :ROFL: jk Golden, no. You didn't stalk him. THUMB's up to your decision...:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	When is it stalking? Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 09:46 AM Most of the time I am good natured.A sense of humor can go a long way.Dennis:dancingp: Post Reply
View Profile History	When is it stalking? Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 08:20 PM I read your profile and your a very beautiful, smart Christian woman, I think you know exactly what to do. I've just posted my opinion but I'd like you to know I realize it's easier to give advise than take it, lol.... and just to let you know I've also been through what you have experienced. The relationship didn't work out because form the beginning he had the upper hand, and to be honest I was tired of other's having priority over me, so I made that necessary difficult decision to walk away. I'm just sharing my experience with you. I hope you're okay and I know it'll take to realize you have to let him go. God Bless Post Reply

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