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Wild_erness View Profile History	Horrible response Posted : 3 Jun, 2014 04:54 PM Hi, I just needed some other people to tell about what has been happening to me on this site over the last few days. I sometimes get messages that have what I call filler questions/statements and only that. Such as: How are you doing . . . Hows it going? . . . Whats up? . . . etc. I don't answer these emails, mostly because I don't like filler questions in real life, so why should I email a filler answer back, they obviously don't really want to know anything at all about me (or have not even read my profile). A few days ago I got one of these filler emails, and because of another thread on these chat forums, I decided to let him know that I did not enjoy getting a non email and how he could improve his next email to a gal and actually get a response. I said things like "you should add a picture to your profile" . . . "ask a question that I will be able to answer and you will get an actual answer" . . . "try reading the gals profile and asking a question based on what you find" . . . (I also told him that scamers tend to send one sentence questions and ask for personal info right away, therefore let him know not to do that). In response to this nice helpful email that I sent, he responded with an all caps email telling me that I was a scammer, that he didn't need my advice, that I insulted him, that I am playing games . . . and on and on . . . I was so offended that I sent back an email that said this "Hey, just trying to help. No worries, just cause I don't like to make small talk in person, doesn't mean that I will enjoy it over email. Like I said, just trying to help." He then sent me another offensive email telling me that he didn't need to apologize (for what I don't know cause I didn't ask for an apology) or that I should keep all my counseling to myself, to stop wasting his time . . . etc. He is now blocked from emailing me. My question for you all is this . . . guys have said on this forum that they want to hear back from us, even if it is to dismiss them . . . so should I keep just ignoring all the emails that I don't feel deserve a response? Or should I respond with a helpful email and just hope they don't blow up on me? Or should I just email saying "You didn't write an email that would solicit a response?" I sort of just wanted to vent to the people on this site, but also am interested in other gals stories, or guys thoughts on this. Thanks ahead of time! Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible response Posted : 13 Jun, 2014 09:10 PM Yup. There's a lot of hurting people in the world and this site is no different. I haven't gotten any nasty emails yet and I'm sorry you did. It's extremely difficult to understand each other just through posts and emails. I may read one email one day and get a certain feeling about it then read it later and get something totally different. Most people on here have been hurt too so a lot of times you may be getting attacked not for something you said or did but because of something that happened to them or was said to them by someone else earlier in life. I heard something a few months back too that makes sense. We judge ourselves by our intentions but we judge others by their actions. Most of the time I have good intentions but I can be an awful communicator so I have empathy with both sides. The bottom line is life is hard and we need the grace of our loving God to make it and hopefully as a bonus we can find a best friend to watch our back as well. Our God is an amazing God and He knows exactly what we need. Beyond that we're only here for a breath anyway. Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible response Posted : 14 Jun, 2014 02:12 AM I think that's why we shouldn't be taking online dating too seriously. If you can't get a date in the real world, you're not going to get dates, real dates (none of this long distance stuff), online. Simple as. Post Reply
Gifted2 View Profile History	Horrible response Posted : 16 Jun, 2014 05:20 PM Perhaps the LESSON to learn is that no one desires to be taught. Scriptures says, "The Lord's bond servant is patient when wronged with gentleness correcting those in opposition ..." Most people are not TEACHABLE... you email explaining all those helpful things was just viewed as a gripe. Too bad, since you have some good insights. But when I find a response back that is IMPATIENT ... I veer away from the man altogether. Some things cannot be fixed. #1 is a Christian who is unteachable and #2 (on my listing) is a Christian with a bad temper. Proverbs warns us NOT to keep company with them at all. I would say you dodged a BULLET not having to deal the man who dumped on you. He obviously has both attitude issues in his life. Post Reply

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