Author	Thread: Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Admin	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 19 Aug, 2013 11:09 PM So I asked a girl at work that I liked out for coffee, she said yeah and gave me her number but then she said later that we'd just be going as friends, then later she said it'd be cool if we got a whole group together from work. I wasn't comfortable with that so said "no thanks". Maybe that was her way of rejecting me maybe not but I think it was. Since then there's been no phoning or texting and when we see each other at work I keep the talk as mono syllable brief as I can. She acts friendly towards me and seemed flattered when I asked, but every time I see her I feel so stupid, embarrassed, flooded with self doubt and doubt about her and its all I can do to act pleasant and polite when I do happen to run into her or have to be around her. Otherwise I avoid her and not try to get to know her better and go out of my way to talk/flirt/banter with her like before. Seeing her used to be the highlight of my day but now it's the absolute worst. Even though she's nice, it still eats at me. My sister told me it's good that it wasn't instant or outright rejection and to not avoid her because women hate that. So my question to you ladies is why do women hate that and why should I care if THEY'RE THE ONES WHO REJECTED ME? In general what do you think I should I do with this situation? I'd really like to know why you women hate it when guys avoid you after you reject them though. It's not like you thought that much of them anyway. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 22 Aug, 2013 08:24 PM Renov Was quite crazy indeed as thinking about it dear, "...like she almost melts, she quivers, gets shallow breaths, has a huge smile...." Got me for a while as I emagen how a lady's most likely to behave when she likes someone or enjoying the attention given to her. Suppose that's just about it hey, Life certainly carry's onn. I enjoyed partaking in your post Was quite an interesting subject!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 12:52 AM Glad my pain brought you so much pleasure. Totally just kidding! :laugh: Seriously though, I'm glad to be able to come on here and be able to talk it out like this and actually learn something. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 05:06 AM Renov, Great going bro !! :applause: We men need to keep it calm and when and if we react.......appologise......This gains the respect and trust of a woman. Our humility shows strength and your did today. Just keep showing this girl friendship and honor because you never know. Dont allow another guy to simply take her from you. This might be another test of your resolve and interest, right? By being confident and secure this is the man who will win out in the long run. Untill she is engeged or married she is fair game, right? She is in no way in a commited relationship so fight for her if she is that special to you......... Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 05:07 AM Did you ever see Galaxy quest? Never give up never surrender....... Gladiator? Strength and Honor..... Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 11:33 AM Was that Galaxy Quest or Starship Troopers? Either way love that quote and yeah I was thinking along those lines too. Just staying positive no matter what. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 05:11 PM Galaxy quest with Tim Allen. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 05:48 PM I'm really proud of him too Micheal, He immediately took your advise which could have been easily misunderstood unto practice on he's last conversation with the lady, which was actually worth he's effort cause now he knows where he stands with her lady, we no longer talking the language of maybe this, or maybe that. All is cleared up for once & for all. Since i've had my share of loving someone, I now know the pressure you guys feel when approaching us, (my experience was even worst being a lady in that position) depending if the guy approaching a lady is really interested in her or he's just taking chances to prove a certain point. I love your attitude Micheal, You're of strong character. Your lady will need the most solid reasons in the book to break you up (not that she ever will I know) You the kind that doesn't give up easily, you'd fight for love (not physically) with everything that you have, which to me is a total charm seeing a man going all out in securing he's territory (I'll be a little stubborn just so I enjoy watching the show) I personally think Renov can do with a clean page & neutral someone considering he's still learning. He'll be in a driving seat with the next part knowing less of he's fault & errors at first site. Remember he'll be trying to win her over, so early days are crucial... Can only wish that he attracts a lady of he's kind since characters & personality matters in these things. He seems more at ease (could be sencing wrong cause I don't know him) a kind that won't put pressure if the other part doesn't seem interested. He's of a gentle attitude, Could really be discerning wrong since there's much to learn about a person, though this is how he comes across. While you friendship on the other hand Ooooooooooh goodness where will I start....? *You're of a strong character *You're crazy in your own unique way *One must never start with you, unless he/she's really up for a challenge *You're gentle & humble in your own way, while your energy speaks volumes in little things you say * One cannot miss you, your presence is felt *You're intelligent by birth now even more with wisdom from the Holly spirit *You'd touch buttons just so you see how will one react (people here take that personal & get really angry with you) You're amazing my friend, your lady has found her self a man in you. That's how you come across in me :nahnah: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 24 Aug, 2013 10:33 PM @letthismind: Oh ok. I looked it up later and Starship Troopers is: "Everybody fights. Nobody quits." I'll have to check out Galaxy Quest. @sisygirl A lot of my change in attitude comes from what I talked about in the other thread about forgiving myself for failing and not being perfect. It's helped me to be more accepting when life and others aren't perfect and let me down. It's amazing how much clarity and progress practicing that one thing has brought to me. If anyone is interested, the article I learned it from is called "You Will Never Get Closure" by Dr. Nerdlove. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 25 Aug, 2013 04:37 AM Yes dear I saw your comment & related with you on that other forum. Forgiveness & acceptance offloads a lot of baggages from the past. Though one last person that I really struggled to forgive is my late mum, God must be helping me, cause lately when I think of her I don't get as angrier as I did before. Accepting that i'm very angry with her was a beginning of forgiveness which i'm still in the process of mastering. Her assignment was the most hard of them all. I really failed to understand what kind of a mother does that...? Bringing me forth into her marriege issues & just disappear like that. No smile, no conversation, no memory of anything about her. There were issues I only wanted to address with her as the lady of the house, who got all of us (my siblings) onto this drama. But now i'm slowly but surely letting go of the anger & bitterness towards her. She's gone friend, she was just never there. So yah forgiving & accepting is only for ones own good. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected? Posted : 25 Aug, 2013 05:42 AM Is that an article I can find in any other book store, Or its only found in christian book shops? Think i'm interested... Post Reply

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