Author	Thread: Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women)
Admin	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 27 Aug, 2012 12:27 PM Is it desirable for you to be married to a man who believes he hears a message from God then goes to the scriptures to determine if it was indeed from God? Or do you desire a husband who believes he hears a message from God and immediately begins teaching others it is the correct way, before he ever searches the scriptures? What say you ladies? Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 28 Aug, 2012 08:22 AM "To add to this...Do you ladies think the husband in example #2 could maintain unity long term in a marriage?" From observing my own parents, they didn't have much "spiritual" unity when my father became more open about being Christian Reformed. My mother, on the other hand, had grown up with her father being a Methodist preacher and has always respected and taken his word on biblical matter. Understand of course, that my mother never had someone question her own beliefs, let alone her husband. Won't go into the differences between the two denominations, but it's those differences that caused frustration between my parents. Until my parents sat down and read the scripture together and eventually got to that common ground, they didn't have that complete unity with each other. Now I suppose that if the different views were more opposite of each other it could potentially lead to divorce. Or perhaps if the woman is just like her husband and are on the same page together nothing would be questioned... Who knows. If there is a conflict between a husband and wife regarding the topic, they need to pray and ask that God guide them to a better understanding of His word. I think it is possible to have that long term unity, but only through Christ. If neither party is willing to change... then nothing is going to or get worse. But most definitely before one starts preaching on what he believes, he needs to crack open his Bible and have the support of the scriptures. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 28 Aug, 2012 12:40 PM Thanks for sharing. I find it hard to believe a wife will trust a husband long term and there will be unity if she knows that he doesn't search the scriptures before he spouts off "truths". He can use that to oppress her...claiming he got the truths from God. He should be able to prove it to his wife with the word. IMO a wife wants to know that the husband isn't just telling her what she wants to hear so that they can agree on everything. Nowhere in scripture does it say that husband and wife will agree on everything. In fact, it pretty much says the opposite when it tells husbands to live with their wives in an understanding way. There would be no need for that command if they always agreed. Two different people will never have the exact same mind no matter what they say and that's fine because God didn't create us that way. He's made us different so that we can learn to love unconditionally those who we are not always of the same mind with. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 28 Aug, 2012 02:36 PM Agreed. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 29 Aug, 2012 04:34 AM Do you ladies think the #2 husband could convince you that despite him not having biblical support....his ideas get results and should be accepted on that basis alone? Would you consider this to be a man who puts God at the center of a relationship? Post Reply
INHIMALONEISTAND View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 29 Aug, 2012 07:12 AM Well I would hope he would check it out first before teaching it. We need to test the spirits in all things. If it does not line up with the Word of God it is no good!! :yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 29 Aug, 2012 07:16 AM No good indeed :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 9 Oct, 2012 01:03 PM I prefer someone who will actually go to his Bible, read up on it, pray about it, and if he feels the need to share it with other people, then share it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 23 Oct, 2012 04:03 AM On that same line ladies I have a couple questions. What kind of man do you prefer in a husband. 1- A man who knows very well his bible but does not know how to live it out. He goes around spouting scripture and feels he is guarding truth yet he himself fails to understand why we have the bible. 2- A man who lives out biblical truth practically speaking and knows the scripture but doesnt get into debate with others over it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which is a more desirable husband?(Question for you women) Posted : 22 Nov, 2012 05:24 PM Of the two you listed, I would prefer the second...the man who lives out Biblical truth and knows the scripture, but does not debate with others. Instead of typing out a giant paragraph about it, I will just put my reasons in bullets instead: - Sometimes the best way to preach is not by words, but by actions and lifestyle. The quote "Preach the gospel. Use words if necessary" (and all versions of it) by Francis of Assisi says a lot. The Bible, to people who do not read it, is strange; seeing someone living his life like the Bible says it should be is easy for all people to see, and because it is good, people will desire it and want to learn why his life is so good. Then he can tell them how Jesus has blessed him so much. - Debating with people over the Bible -- especially people who misunderstand it, or have never read it and make assumptions about it -- usually makes the people being debated with feel attacked, and so their hackles raise. No, I am not saying he should not teach about everything about Jesus, God and the Bible; but it is better for him to know when to speak and teach out of love, than to stand and argue a point and drive people away from Jesus. - Someone who preaches about the Bible but does not understand it or live it is simply being a hypocrite; the Pharisees were constantly preaching, but not living their lives like they were saying it should be lived, and you know what all Jesus said to and about them. A wise man who loves Jesus and loves his Bible, and who knows when to preach and when not to, does so out of love and obedience to God. These are my reasons for why I would choose the second man. Post Reply

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