At my age maybe i should not be commenting on stuff like this lol!! but here we go...
First, we should remember that GOD HATES DIVORCE.
Secondly, we should remember the seriousness of MARRIAGE VOWS.
I was listening to a sermon by Keith Daniels on marriage and that really got to me. Maybe for some of you guys it may be too late but what you can tell others who are nearly getting divorced is that they should go to God in prayer and possibly fasting so as to get the other spouse saved if not or to bring reconcilliation.
I also think that marriage roles of the husband and wife should be based on the Bible because another embarrasing reason that causes divorce is reversed roles or even competing roles and that need to be equals when we are not.
Women should be women and men men. Different genders have different roles and responsibilities. (read the Bible and find out for yourselves)
Obviously this question is not going to apply to everyone here but it will apply to the masses I believe.
I expect to get opposition from it also. I have already contacted certain ministries to get this message out. I dont expect to be well recieved with a message of repentence like this. Repentence, faith and our responsibility to keep our vows to our husbands/ wives before God.
If we dont keep our vows then we are guilty of adultry plain and simple. What does death do us part mean any more? We should put in our vows until divorce do us part then.
To those women who Husbands are remarried I am sorry and I am not addressing this issue.
What is going to put an end to divorce in the church if it doesnt begin here? If it doesnt begin with us.
God hates divorce. But read the following part of the verse:
I hate a man who covers himself with violence. (Malachai)
Also WHAT is the marriage vow?
"to love, to cherish, to honor, to protect". But when is that vow broken? When there is "no love, no protection, no honor". So whoever does not love, cherish, and honor, that person breaks the vow first.--not necessarily the one who leaves or divorces first.
Also, the sacredness of life. True, God hates divorce. But when there is a threat to the sacredness of life, what should you choose?
we don't have any right to judge any one who has been involved in divorce. The reason here is that we may never know all the circumstances that lead to divorce.
I have a friend who married the woman he loved so much but then it turned out that this lady(his former wife) was interested in some other lady and she actually had married my friend just to keep her reputation clear. No matter how he fought hard to keep the love and vows, it just did not work out! The lady was in love with her girlfriend not him!
I also have another friend who was always mistreated and bitten by her husband who was involved on alcohol and drugs(he had been a practicing christian when they had first married). she suffered physical violence and psychological torture. No matter how much she prayed and treated her husband with love, he did not care about her anymore! she was patient enough but then it reached a time when she had to run for her freedom(divorce).
What do you do if your wife(when you get married) insists she wants to divorce? and what if you pray, fast or even cry and it turns out that God does not answer your prayers the way you want/desire?
You know,Sometimes things may never work out the way we want them to:)
I guess the only way out is to pray for God's guidance and his endorsement on our relationships before getting married. I am sure that if we seek God's will( And not make assumptions of God's will), we will not end up in a mess.
Often time, Men the head of household breaks the marriage vows. Vows are set for a reason, that is what makes a good healthy marriage. When the vows of marriage are broken the marriage is broken and Only God can put it back together. If a man is not a Christian he usually leaves, and visa versa.
But are you saying that the divorce rate is more than half for example among the non Christians? or are you saying that the non christian spouses are usually the ones that start up the divorce thing in marriages? I do think that the divorce rate is very alarming among the people who call themselves Christians.
I was say, that the divorce rate amongest Christians are just as high as the rate among non-Christians. The WLUJ Christian radio made that statement on the air a few months ago. They talk about all kinds of things reguarding Christian lifestyles.
Unfortunately, Christians divorce for many reasons not just Adultry and desertion like the bible says.
Mathew 5:32
I Corinthians 7:15
People on these dating site seek partners never married Yet they have been divorced like the OP started this thread.
First, I hate second place which means I'm not really a fan of marrying divorced men or even someone who had GFs or who has had relationships. I wish to find someone who was never in a relationship even(chances are almost non-existent I know). Yet, if I meet a divorced man who I feel God hath led me to,I would definitely marry him without ever feeling that I am getting in the way.lol.
Here is a tell tale comment from one of the other posters here and I quote:
"God knows where I stand and I know where I stand on the grounds of divorce and remarriage. "
NOTICE: The focus is anthropocentric to the core.
This is the kind of humanistic thinking that has become the status quo in Christian circles. It's upside down. It dethrones God and enthrones man.
A theocentric mind would concern themselves with where GOD stands on divorce and remarriage and NOT the other way around.
In the end, God does not submit to our standards. He commands us to submit to His. It matters NOT that God knows where you stand but only that you know where He stands.
