Thread: HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
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HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 29 Apr, 2012 07:02 AM
... and Love Romance, Sex, and Being Creative ..."
This is the new headline I decided to use as an inviting BAREFOOT BANNER for my loving, romantic, honest and fun profile, and I just wanted to share it with you here, and get some feedback from you on it.
How do you like it as my new HEADLINE? Is it TOO DIRECT AND HONEST ... or not too honest and direct ENOUGH? I hesitated about including "If You Love Romance AND Sex and Being Creative", but, honestly, these ARE three of the things I LOVE, naturally, as a man, things that God created all of us to love enjoying with our mate, our husbands and wives, and definitely are important to me, that whoever is my future wife LOVE AS MUCH AS I DO as part of our blessed relationship, so I feel being HONEST about each of these five LOVES AND NEEDS up front is not inappropriate or should be offensive or a turn off to any of the gals who aren't just on here playing games and not seriously looking for a Christian husband who loves these things (for whatever reasons she has for not doing so). I know, it seems here, that some gals don't even want to HEAR the words "love sex" mentioned in a guy's profile or at the beginning of their "getting to know each other better" relationship, because of all of the guys out there and on here too, who seem to be ONLY interested in "ONE THING" in their relationships these days, rather than in ROMANCE and sex and ALL the other Barefoot Special Fun Things each person's heart and spirit, as well as, their bodies can experience and enjoy in a God-blessed, lasting love relationship as husband and wife loving God AND each other second ONLY to HIM!!!
Anyway, I was just wondering what you thought about my new HEADLINE and why, and whatever feedback you might have for me on it and the situation us guys have with needing a wife to have sex wife, no matter what age we are, and whether or not we are physically-challenged in serving God as a loving, romantic, sexually-exciting, husband and spiritual leader in our love relationship with them as our wife?
Love you all, and thanks for whatever feedback you have to share from your heart with me about these things.
HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 1 May, 2012 07:23 AM
Oh my land, I would avoid you like the plague!
I agree that one has to be equally yoked in many areas, including this one, but to parade it the way you do, along with your other posts speaks of one thing to me ... total self focus!
What causes divorce is self-centeredness and expecting the other to fulfill your every need! If each were other-focused instead of self-focused, all needs would be met. If one is doing so and the other is not, then there are issues. If one has issues they refuse to address, they cannot be fully committed to the relationship because the issue comsumes every area of your life. Christ is the ultimate healer and yoker!
Don't assume because a woman won't have a free-for-all discussion with you about her sexual desires that she is frigid. Likely it is the opposite! Sometimes it is because she feels so highly about that area that it is too special to devulge over the internet or in casual conversation with someone who does not have interest in her heart and the most important issues in her life ... that is her walk with her Saviour... the ultimate lover!
Instead of raising it to a level of more importance, you actually lower it to basic animal instinct and cheapen it.
If you would partner with a woman, you need to be able to speak her language. Shouting at her may get her attention but it won't get her love.
HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 1 May, 2012 09:30 AM
I used that word on purpose because that's what I see here. The poster above me spoke of "parading" things about and the way you do that, as well as drag your weird fetish into everything, implies that you're getting some perverse satisfaction from this whole exchange - and that's all apparent even before I consider the fact that you only post in the "ask a girl" forum. Once I add that little piece of interesting information... well, that's just the proverbial icing on the proverbial cake. Leave these girls alone.
HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 1 May, 2012 09:37 AM
I also agree completely with the poster above me. That was very well stated and very true. Sexual preferences are not first-date material, let alone profile material. It's inappropriate and potentially violating. I am personally going to go pour bleach in my eyes in an attempt to unsee this entire thread.
HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 2 May, 2012 06:35 AM
Thanks to everyone for their input and advice. Some of you, and you know who you are, are WAAAAAAAAAAAY to unloving and insensitive toward a brother who is simply different in his personality than you are, making assumptions and accusations that are NOT helpful or appropriate.
But, anyway, I LOVE ALL OF YOU as your brother in Christ, and forgive you for treating me insensitively in your hurtful replies.
I am NOT self-absorbed any MORE than YOU are, but just being happy to be myself in Christ, loving Him and the things I love that are unique loves to me, just like you love Christ and the unique things YOU love.
A word of loving advice from my heart to yours, Bain: I wouldn't list "skepticism" as one of my interests in my profile like you have done in yours ... you may be trying to just be funny, but that probably does as MUCH to turn gals OFF to YOU, as you feel my using my favorite word "BAREFOOT" and mentioning how much I love sex does for me!!! So ... skeptical brother in Christ ,,. just honestly sharing with you my heart about THAT!!!
Now, as so many of you have wisely encouraged me about this new HEADLINE, I am going to change it again to a HEADLINE that reflects my heart's desire for a HOLY RELATIONSHIP with a wife who loves God as much as I do and has Him coming FIRST in her life just like I have Him coming FIRST in MY life!!! :hearts:
Thanks again, everyone, for your thoughtful, wise, sensitive advise!!! :hearts: Now let's put this particular thread to rest.
HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 3 May, 2012 06:07 PM
Steve,
I must say that I do like your newest headline of a Holy Relationship, much better than the other. Hopefully, in God's time, you will find that special someone for you.
But what I didn't like, was seeing some of the hurtful words that were said to you.
Let us show more love and kindness towards one another, as the Lord would expect of us Christians. God bless..
HEADLINE: "If You Love The Lord, Love To Go Barefoot, ...
Posted : 11 May, 2012 03:48 PM
Amen, flowers1951 ... and thank you for your sweet and kinder reply to this thread.
It seems, reading some of the other unkind, insensitive and unthoughtful, unnprayerfully composed replies my request for feedback has prompted, that those who replied in such a way did not really read all of my original post and reply based on the things I clearly shared about my reasoning and intent contained in it. Oh, well .... my heart and my spirit appreciate and feel blessed by those brothers and sisters in Christ who DID read all of my original post and responded based on ITS full content, rather than reading, perhaps, a portion of what I wrote and jumping to conclusions and/or deciding to make uncalled for wild and riduculous assumptions and accusations, attacking my character and intentions without any prayerful thoughts, feelings or merit, I don't know what to make of those responses, except to know they are WRONG in their assumptions and accusations, their improper attacks before God, and just forgive them, as I have done.
Thanks agan to everyone who has responded kindly and lovinngly to my request for constructive, insightful feedback.
