Quick background: About a year and a half ago I met a very solid Christian female. I was Catholic before we started talking and I had alot of kinks that needed to be worked out in my spiritual life. For reasons I won't mention I felt like God hated me. Anyways, she saved me, we became best friends and then shortly after we started dating.
This was the first true Christian female I've ever dated. She was compassionate and understanding yet she was firm in her faith to the point that God worked through her to make me a better man.
Well, she told me I was everything she wanted in a husband, but she had to pray to God to see if it was right.
I went on a mission trip and when I came back she told me that she had fasted and for the first 5 days had gotten a yes, but the last 2 days had been no.
So we (more so her than me) decided that we should stop dating.
This left me confused and very hurt. I'm over the hurt, but I am still a little confused. I'm sure there are a plenty of bible passages that explain why God would do something like this etc but that is not my question. Ladies my question is simply: Is this the proper way to find a husband?
Like I said this was my only Christian relationship so I have nothing to base it on. Thank you
One thing we all must understand is, that just because a person is saved and is a good christian man/woman, and you become invloved together in a short term relation, and enjoy doing certain things together, this does mean that that person was the RIGHT Christian for you... you still may not be EQUALLY YOKED in ALL things as should be in a godly relationship.
Julio, As has been said, God didn't take this person from you, maybe she just wasn't the RIGHT person for you. God is not unstable, we, the people are unstable. Lol... and sometimes we don't listen or hear the voice of God, because we have gotten CAUGHT UP in the moment and in a hurry to find someone to love, and think that just because the person is nice, kind, is a christian, and enjoy doing the christian/religious things with us, this is the person God has sent for us. Our he-motions and she-motions have deceive us and get in our way.
Then again, you went on a trip, and she changed her mind. Well, if it was God who told her the first time that you were the one, maybe it wasn't God, since He is not a man who should lie. And after your return trip, she had changed her mind again. Maybe this time it was God acting on your behave, trying to let you know that SHE wasn't the right one for you. In that, she was unsatble and had no endurance, and being away on your trip, she was unable to stay the test of time until you returned.
MCUBED, in reading about God's choice of Saul, then David. Remember, God didn't chose Saul to be king over the people, the people of Israel begged for a king and they are the ones who wanted a king and rejected the "endurance/time of waiting" for God to appoint the king HE had chosen, because they were in a hurry to have a king over them. But God did warned them of the kind ofcorrupt king who would rule over them, and they still would listen. God had already chosen David in the beginning, but the people were in a hurry and refused to be still and wait.
So, maybe your trip proved to you that this was not the person God had for you, but in the beginning you and she refused to hear the voice of God, so God had to show you, SHE wasn't for you, and need you to be still and wait on the solid person He has for you in the bush.LOL (ram in the bush), so He had HER to change her mind and get out of the way... Now you must wait on the Lord and be of good courage.
This is rather long, but hope it makes sense... lol
Thank you for your kind words, however I think you mistook what I was saying. Here is a direct cut and paste out of my second post on this thread:
I would like to clarify one thing: I do not believe God 'took' her away from me. What I didn't understand is if this was a natural part of a Christian relationship. Does the woman fast and pray for an answer?
Thanks bro for your reply.now indeed i understand what you have said.but what i dont understand is that i didnt go for her she came to me ( I believe the lord brings the rite partners to our doorstepp rite?) i knew it was from god compared to other crushers for whic i have tryied resulting in faliur.this is too shoking for me... in the sense that after knowing she is my x now. i still am waiting that god will turn things aroud for me.coz isent it deception that overulled the relationship i had been honest to all but saten used my past to make it a disaster in the futcher. is that the way i should analize it? saten is the thief who comexs to kill steal and destroy rite? and women are weak and the devil first will try them like eve .he knows if he gets to them its easy for him.tell me why he dint try adam to tempt? coz men are vulnarable to resistance in there mind but women have a fluctuating mind..agree / disagree?
Thanks for clearing up your question for me. I hope I have it right this time LOL....All I can say is that, for some women fasting and praying is how they get their answer. I don't think its the norm of all christian behavior, but is a great spiritual act, because we are told to fast and pray for the poor, for power from God through the Holy Spirit, and for answers and directions.
I, personally don't fast and pray when I'm in need of answers, but I do spend quality time seeking for answers, and directions in prayers making my request (s) known to Him. And I do keep asking Him questions as to what I should or shouldn't do, or if whatever I have need of an answer if I'm do or going in the right direction.
So again, maybe this girl did get the correct answers by fasting and praying the second time around, and maybe God also used this to show you that she is unstable. Because if things were going well in the beginning before you took your trip, and she said God told her, and after she fasted and prayed again, she proclaimed that God gave her another answer and told her after you returned from your tri. To me, this is a spiritually unstable person. She really can't or doesn't know the voice of God, or isn't listening to God, He's not going to change His mind from one answer to another. Makes me wonder which answer He told her is correct the first or the second. I think SHE changed her mind about you... I'm just saying.:winksmile:
Myabe God told her no in the first answer, and she didn't take heed, so she fasted and prayed again, and this time she listened... Maybe you should fast and pray and see what God has to say to you. I'm sure He has a word for you as well. Fasting and praying isn't just for women, its for men as well, and He will direct your path:glow:
It's been said already that God doesn't change His mind or disagree with Himself. As far as God breaking up a relationship, only from being the slave to sin. God is the glue of a godly relationship and should be between the couple as the center of their relationship. This is why a couple should first focus on the Bible before all else; bring Christ into every part of your life.
