Author	Thread: Curious
1newguy View Profile History	Curious Posted : 1 Nov, 2011 01:49 AM How many of you, men or women, are prepared or would be willing to get married to someone that you've only known for a short time, but got to know really well? Perhaps the question boils down to how desirous or committed are you to sacrifice yourself for someone despite the differences that you will eventually have. Meaning: how truly ready are you for marriage? To answer my own question I would say I would do it with thoughtful prayer knowing that despite the differences we would eventually have, I would be committed to loving her despite them. To me, divorce is not an option and if she's truly and fully dedicated to the Lord, I completely believe the marriage would work out fine and be blessed. Maybe I got up too early this morning:) Post Reply
1newguy View Profile History	Curious Posted : 5 Nov, 2011 10:17 AM Thanks for your honest replies. When I say two people are fully committed to the Lord, I mean that they are walking in obedience to Him which means they are going to love their spouse unconditionally as Christ commands us. If someone is not seeking their spouse before themselves, then they are not walking in obedience according to the Word. The world believes in the 50/50 deal which is all about "I'll do my share IF you do yours" which is contrary to the entire gospel message. We are to think of others before ourselves at all times. Does that happen all the time? No. We fall short everyday, but a convicted Christian will repent and seek forgiveness from the Lord and their spouse. Of course we should be wise in choosing someone equally yoked. That is wisdom from the Lord for sure. Its not easy being a living sacrifice, bit that is what we're commanded to do no matter how many times we fail. Praise the Lord for 1 John 1:9 Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Curious Posted : 19 Nov, 2011 12:45 PM No matter how devoted you are to the Lord, I strongly believe you cannot have a happy marriage if you do not have other things in common. Regardless of whether it fails, it would not be happy. For example, if you are outdoorsy and want to live in the country but your spouse hates the outdoors and wants to live in the city, one of you has to sacrifice what you want. And while that might seem noble, it is impractical. If you don't want the same things in life, one or both will be miserable. Most likely both, because if your spouse is miserable, generally you will be also even if they don't mean to make you miserable over it. If you have no interests or activities in common, then you will either never spend any time together, which is bad, or one of you will be bored while participating in the other person's activity or at the very least hold them back, which is not fun for either of you, which leads to frustration and a lack of enjoying the activity, and that also is bad. I think you should have things that each of you enjoys and does separately, but you also need things you both enjoy doing or talking about in order to be able to spend enjoyable, quality time together. A relationship cannot grow otherwise. And if it's not growing, it's either wilting or stale, and no one wants that. Another point is that the healthiest marriages are where the spouses become each others best friends. You can't be best friends if you don't love spending time with each other. And to love spending time together, it's important that it's something you both enjoy. That way when the spark dies, and it ALWAYS does, though it can also always come back, you have your friendship to fall back on. Post Reply

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