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Rabbit32 View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 27 Jun, 2011 11:36 AM First: Ladies, I want to thank you for sharing your hearts with us men. I know not all of you will, and it's hard to divuldge areas of your life that may be painful, or sensitive :) A few years a go I was a man who weighed about 260lbs and for my height (5'11', 6'0 if I stand up straight :) it is considered obese. I made no bones about why I was big, it was simple I ate alot more than I moved. Also I knew I was fat, and didnt have problem saying so. My question is; why do women who are overweightt (they have more flesh on them than there frame can hold) not identify themselves as such. It SOUNDS like they honey coat it by using terms like voluptious, curvey, thick, all of which in my mind are often diferent than how I view the definition of those terms :) Post Reply
Nkatty View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 10:03 AM Thanks Cobbler:-)....apparently i can't donate blood cause of my weight:(...an its one thing i would love to do often...all my older siblings were once as slender as i am...but gained...so it seems to be genetic...don't be mistaken...i love myself...esp my smile...or is it my teeth...lol...an since i realised that i don't add much weight wen i put all my focus on the adding weight exercise...i suspended the goal seekin venture...an funny thing is...am slowly gaining weight! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 12:39 PM Jambo Beloved of God, you are the way you are. :) Post Reply
Nkatty View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 12:45 PM Jambo rabbit32..:-)...asante(thanks) Post Reply
View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 12:48 PM Who cares: I have had love handles since the birth canal. i believe that as a premie,i did not want to see the world that i had been listening to inside the womb. The doctor wanted me out,so instead of grabbing my skull,He grabbed my sides,so there is the story of the LOVE HANDLES. I believe in America,oops;THE HOMELAND (Yahvole herr commandant). In America,we are more concerned with a persons looks,the position and station in this life. How much they have and can make. We tend to want to get things out of people,instead of getting to know people as they are. Are we as quick to notice a persons character,as quickly as we recognise the way they are dressed. This nation has its priorities mixed up,so does the Body of Yeshua. 6And it came to pass, when they were come, that he looked on Eliab, and said, Surely the LORD'S anointed is before him. 7But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. Remember,ABBA is not concerned with what you have,He wants YOU,not your stuff. Its His stuff anyway,He made it all. Shalom Meanie Post Reply
View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 12:55 PM Meanie: To marry someone for only one reason is wrong, no matter what that reason is. What happens if someone has a serious brain injury that makes a radical change to someone�s personality. Are you going to dump them because of that? I am not saying that people need to have perfect bodies, not at all. But there is a huge difference between having a perfect body and letting yourself go and not caring about yourself. Staying within a healthy weight shows that you care. Post Reply
View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 01:19 PM You both make really interesting arguments. I like a gentleman who rather not go into rants about weight though, I've seen some really pretty fat women before, with stunning features like really pretty eyes and a smile that lights up the room. I think it's just what the individual guy is into. Point is, find someone you're attracted to, and don't worry about the ones you're not. Telling a girl she only need lose weight to appeal to you will rarely make her do it. Women lose weight and put on make up and pretty themselves up most of the time for -themselves-. Even a man's reaction to our beauty can technically be for us. It makes us feel good. You're doing it wrong. :P Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 02:18 PM Who is ranting lol. I was just seeking understanding. Was curious becuse we (men/women) react to things differently. Myself I have a wide range of taste. I am not concerned about fashion, and what the world views as pretty, but I pay close attention to my phisological reaction. Something about a woman who I am attracted to strums the strings of my heart. Post Reply
View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 03:34 PM BunnyBoy, when I was younger, I was referred to as "big boned." My Dad affectionately called me "Rocky" as in the Rock of Gibralter. I have even been "solid." I had a lot of curves...maybe too many for a teenager. Anyway, when I was about 15, I lost a lot of the baby fat, except in my chest area. Then, I was called words I dare not repeat. I was athletic in high school and college, so there was a challenge to be feminine but not s l u t t y; athletic but not masculine. Then I had surgery because I was so self-conscious. Now, at 52, my body type is 'a few extra pounds.' Go figure... Post Reply
uniquecrystalheart74 View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 03:27 PM Just like NKatty, way before, I wanted to gain more pounds since I think I am too skinny. But to some, I can be slim or sexy. The bottom line is, beauty is in the eye of the beholder depending on how we view beauty and what we see as a beauty. It is the same way in being called fat. Maybe that is why there came different terms, bbw, voluptuous, etc. depending on how you see it. But the most important thing is that you are comfortable with yourself, you love yourself no matter how much you weigh. You do know that God loves you. And another person accepts you, loves you even if you became underweight or overweight.(^_^) Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	An Even More Sensitive Subject Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 11:41 PM I was always thin as a kid and teen. I recal the girls that had more meat and shape and was happy when I put on a bit in my 20's. Now I would consider my self average as I have more shape. But I'm still more on the lean side. Calling people fat is really kind of mean. After all a lot of being over weight has to do with the body type you have. I don't work out and I eat lots of high callerie and fatty foods. Of course I eat enough good stuff also but even heathy foods can make you over weight. If I'm a lot less active I will put on some weight. When I'm working physicle labour type of jobs I lean up fast. This is not the same for every one. I know a lot of ladies that really have to try to be slim. Or some men as well. So is it not nicer to give it a less ofensive name? To the poster congrats on loosing the weight. You said that you eat too much and were not very active. But I know people that are like that that are slim. So you might be one of the people that will always have to watch your weight. I'm not saying that people should not try to take care of there bodies but it's not as easy for every one. Also pictures are the best way for others to determin if your build is what they find attractive. But in the end there has to be more that brings you to gather then just what's on the out side. Post Reply

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