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bcpianogal

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What misconceptions do people have about you?
Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 07:19 AM

I thought this might be a good topic that we can have fun with, but also take seriously if we want to! (I know this is in "Ask a Girl", but as usual, guys can participate too.) Feel free to gripe, vent, laugh, tell funny stories about yourself, etc. It's your chance to clear up all those misconceptions.



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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 07:22 AM

People seem to have several misconceptions about me. One of the most common is that I'm unfriendly. That is just not true! Sure, I'm shy, and I have a hard time starting a conversation with a perfect stranger, but I'm not unfriendly. I'm working really hard to overcome my shyness and be more outgoing because while shyness isn't really a bad thing, unfriendliness is most definitely a bad thing!

Another misconception is that I just have an abundance of natural musical talent...or that I must have been a child prodigy. Wow. That is SO far from the truth!!! I guess I'm glad that I seem to have a lot of talent, but my real talent is for hard work. It has taken me 19 years (16 of those years included weekly lessons and 6 of those 16 were at the college level) to get where I am on the piano, and I still practice daily. Yes, I have some talent, but I wish people recognized my hard work too!

And finally, the most frustrating misconception: many people seem to think that I'm single because I WANT to be single. This mostly comes from guys/men, though some girls/women who have never lacked for a boyfriend/husband in their entire life have this misconception about me too. People frequently ask me "So, are you taking a break from dating right now?" or "When do you think you'll get back into the dating scene?" or even "Why don't you want to date?" An older man recently told my sister "Your sister Beth is pretty enough and smart enough that whenever she decides that she wants to start dating, she won't have ANY trouble finding a guy." My sweet sister cleared that one up for me. She told him something along the lines of "Do you really thinks she WANTS to be single? YOU try being the girl who is NEVER asked out, and who has to watch while all her friends date, then get engaged, then finally get married and have kids." OK, so that all the world knows: I DON'T want to be single! There. Now you know. (Maybe I should wear a t-shirt that says "Single and accepting applications for position of boyfriend. Please apply in person.")

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 08:10 AM

Probably one of the biggest misconceptions people have about me is that I'm not outdoorsy or handy. I'll trade Sperry's and the city for my Redwings and the mountains any day of the week, but I guess people just see me dressed for business class most of the time. Heck, I nearly didn't get invited on a camping/rock climbing trip with my pastor because he didn't think I'd want to go. Let's see how surprised he is when I can out climb him in a couple weeks!

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 08:28 AM

Those are really good misconceptions BCPianogal and Tulip! Thanks for sharing.

What really bugs me is when people think I'm really sweet. I don't know how to describe it. But I don't like people thinking I'm cute and cuddly all the time, I have moments where I need to vent my frustrations and I can only do that with two of my friends really, because all my other friends wouldn't be able to handle my other side which they plainly refuse to believe exists. On a brighter note, its a good thing that I have those two friends who understand me on a deeper level. Thank God for that.

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 10:20 AM

Tulip, really? People don't think of you as an outdoorsy type of person? Hmm, I've always thought you'd like the outdoors.



One of the biggest misconceptions people have about me is that I have to talk all the time. So whenever I'm not talking, it's Kathy are you alright, or you okay, are you upset about something? Sigh, there are times(quite frequently actually) when I would like everyone to just be quiet and leave me along. It's nice to be able to just sit and think. And I guess it's a good thing that I have people who care about me.

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 10:54 AM

I seem to have a lot of the same misconceptions as many of you.



A lot of people think that I'm just a really quiet person. Sure, I enjoy my alone time and I don't always feel like talking to people, but the fact is that I'm just shy around people that I don't know real well or feel comfortable around. There are some people out there that wish I would be more quiet, though!



Several people at my church think I'm a nice, sweet-natured guy. They obviously haven't seen me in the past or outside of church that often, because I do have a bad temper, although I've gotten better about controlling it (not completely, though). Its not as if I don't try to be nice and sweet tempered, its just that there is more to me than what they've seen.



Finally, one of my female friends at college/church generalized me with all of her other guy friends. For Valentine's Day, Yogurt Mountain was having a buy 1/get 1 free special for couples, and she wanted to go. The problem was, none of her guy friends would agree to go with her. Another girl at our church even suggested she ask me (and I was sitting right there when she made the suggestion) but my friend just shook her head no. And I would have gone with her, too, just to try it out. She ended up not going.

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 01:13 PM

See how ridiculous it is? I love being outside! Hahaha

Another misconception is that I get invited to all kinds of sorority formals/date nights/etc. Friday was my first formal. For whatever reason, I just don't get invited. Girls in the college ministry I'm in have said to other people in a conversation that I'm a part of that they have taken every guy in the ministry to something, and yet they've never taken me. It's a pretty small issue, but at the same time, it's frustrating because I'm basically being told that I've just fallen through the cracks. I'd be a great date, I'm told, and I should be included, yet I never get asked. No one really likes feeling overlooked...

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 02:14 PM

I hear ya, Tulip. When I was a student, people always asked me who was taking me to Spring Formal...they just assumed I had a date. So, I never did go to Formal. Sure, I suppose I could have gone by myself. They always sold tickets individually or in pairs (for a discount, of course). But what fun would it have been to go and dance with myself? All my friends had dates for Formal, so hanging out with them wasn't an option...they made that clear.

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Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 05:51 PM

Well there are a lot of misconceptions people have about me.



1. being blind, which I am means that I would not be able to go anywhere.



2. Being hearing impaired, I must be dumb because I can't hear like most.



3. being near sited at times it may appear that I get too close to people at times. But, I try to watch how close I get. Some women have said that about me.



There are a few more, but God has helped me to overcome many of them. Well, maybe not relationships yet.

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Posted : 12 Apr, 2011 05:40 AM

your picture totally screams cute and cuddly. :ROFL: Seriously it does.

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Posted : 12 Apr, 2011 05:42 AM

Tulip, your a man, you can do some asking. What's the worst that can happen?

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