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Admin	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 07:55 PM Ladiies (and Gents): If you were asked by your sister (or brother) to come and meet someone they had found that they wanted to marry, and that sister (or brother) asked you to evaluate them as to their suitability for a mate..... what kind of questions would you ask? Assume you are on good terms with your sister (or brother), and that they are a Christian. Also assume the person they want to marry is a Christian. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 08:57 PM I can't think of any questions I would ask. I would have my eye on them like a hawk the entire time they were visiting though, because you can figure out a lot just by studying people. I've told my younger brother he needs to break up with his girlfriend for probably 8 months. She's a nice girl, but I don't really like her. Guess what she did the other day? She broke up with him in the middle of class. Turns out, my instincts were right. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 09:07 PM I agree watching is as helpful as anything. I'd probably ask what their plans for the future were, see what they were most interested in, and ask where they stood on several issues. I'd have to feel my way through the questions, but would include questions about finances and family. I'd also want to see how he interacted with kids and other adults, and would definitely want to know how he felt about his family-parents, siblings, etc. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 09:25 PM Marika already gave the same answer as I was going to, so I won't repeat it! With my younger sister's boyfriend of 7 months, I've learned a LOT by just watching him and paying attention to things like how (in)considerate he is of her and her schedule, how he treats her, how he speaks of his parents and reacts to them, how he treats my mom, etc. Personally, I don't like him. Our personalities clash something awful. But my sister seems to think he hung the moon, and he seems to think that the sun revolves around her. I don't have any concrete problems with him, though, so I guess as long as they're happy... :rolleyes: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 10:00 PM You know BC, accidents can happen. Guys sometimes just disappear... Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 11:48 PM Hmmm...this might require some creativity, and for 'me' limited acting skills; I would act mentality deranged, perhaps drooling on myself like David did in Sam 21:13 ("So he pretended to be insane in their presence and while he was in their hands he acted like a madman, making marks on the doors of the gate and letting saliva run down his beard") Then I would loudly proclaim "I had a vision from Barney; my purple dinosaur spirit guide that one of you must die to prevent your first born from becoming incarnate antichrist". Then pull out a gun and ask which one would like to volunteer. If he stepped forward, then I'd know she had the right man for her husband! Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 04:54 AM If it was my sister, I'd ask the young man,"Do you promise to love her just as Christ loves the Church?" If he can do that-------- No Worries! Smooth Sailing Ahead! God Bless, Deborah Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 06:11 AM Thank you all for your thoughtful answers, random musings, looney contributions, and insight. Here I had a list all lined up, and what I should be doing is listening and watching more. Well, I can do that too, but he IS going to get some questions. :laugh: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 06:13 AM "thoughtful answers, random musings, looney contributions, and insight" What a wonderful summary of how these threads usually go! Post Reply
SoulUntouched View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 06:52 AM I would suggest talking to a potential husband about their views on saving sex till marriage. I have talked to a couple christian men about this topic and when I questioned them they would say that they would abstain from sex if it is what their partner wanted and if they felt that their partner was trust worthy. If they were not with you, who are waiting, then it would not be their first choice to wait. How easy it would be for them to fall into temptation when they find someone willing to sleep with them. Therefore, they were saving sex till marriage for all the wrong reasons. I believe that you should abstain from sex for your partner, yourself, aswel as for your God. If you feel your partner is not trust worthy then why are you with that person? I think that the values that each of you hold should be made clear early in a relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions for a potential husband Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 07:35 AM Tulip are you offering to assist BC with this "accident"? Post Reply

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