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stormcountry33 View Profile History	????? Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 11:45 PM "You're sweet, kind, generous...you have a great sense of humor and you're great with kids...you're just not my type." WHAT???? What type are you looking for? Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 12:57 AM She's juist not that into you. Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 03:52 AM Answers like that are always so frustrating. I always have a reason why I am not �into� someone, it may not be a nice reason, but I still have one. Most of us guys are very analytical, and all we are asking is some suggestions on how to improve. We take the risk of rejection and the women refuse to at least tell us something that would help us. People need feedback, we need to know what we are doing wrong and, just as importantly, what we are doing right. It reminds me of when I was in the Air Force. I was an aircraft mechanic, and we would wear earmuffs for hearing protection due to the jet engine noise. All equipment, including the earmuffs, had to be turned in at the end of your shift before you could go home, to make sure that you wouldn�t leave anything behind that could cause the aircraft to crash. Since you never knew when you would need the earmuffs, most people would wear them just above the ears so that they would always have them at the ready, much like pushing sun glasses back on your head when you step indoors for a few minutes. Anyways, one of my friends had walked around to about 12 people asking if they had seen his earmuffs, and they all stared him right in the face and said no, they had not seen them. When he asked me, I immediately told him that they were still on his head, where he had left them. He had been wearing them for so many hours, that he didn�t even realize he was wearing them. Everyone thought it was funny, but all he wanted to do was go home at the end of his 12 hour shift and be with his wife and kid. The point is, if you keep hearing over and over about how great and sweet and wonderful you are, but don�t get a concrete answer as to why she�s just not into you, you begin to feel as if there is something very obvious that you are doing that no one wants to tell you. This is why I get so frustrated about this whole dating process. It�s not about love or kindness or caring about someone. It�s about what you can get out of it for yourself. Sometimes I do feel as if an arranged marriage would be better. Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 07:11 AM "She's just not that into you", yeah it didn't really answer the question, I notice lol but since I have been asking for the question of "she/he is just not that into you" for the past few days.. So.. :laugh: Anyway, the only person who knows the answer is herself, and of course God, who knows all things. I can't speak for her, but if I put myself in her shoes, if I answered that way, I was just trying to give the nicest answer to you to tell you that I was not interested in you. I didn't want to hurt your feeling but I at least tried to prevent you were having "hopes" in us being together romantically. I believed that you were a good guy but someway somehow I could not picture us being together in the future. You might not fit in her list (which I have no idea what it is), but maybe what she wished she would find in a man, she could not find it in you. If she was not interested in you, didn't mean that it was your fault, and didn't mean that you need to change for her. I encourage everyone to change to be a better person (or for Jesus), but if we changed just to fit someone's criteria just to please him/her, I don't think it's such a gud idea. Once the person disappointed us, we might end up feeling disappointed toward the person, or worse hating him/her. Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 07:31 AM LOOK at it this way atleast she said something-even though it was half truths:excited: See I so dislike this sort of speech -however I am sure I have done the same in the past....but I try not to do that now. She is trying to say She does not really like you, and Does not wish to be with you..and she failed to give you the real reason...Maybe she felt it may hurt your feelings-or she has truth issues..who knows. Maybe you need to brush your teeth...could be 1000 things Just let it GO It is that simple Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 08:15 AM Maybe you need to brush your teeth...could be 1000 things I know you are exagerating a bit to make a point, but it is simple things like that that frustrate us. I am not about to make major changes in my life just to find someone. But, if it is something simple that I might be overlooking, then it would be really nice to know. Like I said, dating is more about selfishness than looking out for others. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 08:48 AM I think what she was trying to say is that she just didn't feel it click with you, even though you're a great guy. As nice as it would be to find relationships based on checklists, if you don't feel it, you don't feel it. Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 09:29 AM I'm sorry, but I am really not understanding this train of thought. I have to agree with Tulip...what are you suppose to say to someone who is a nice person or a friend when you just don't click with them or don't feel led by the Spirit to go further in a relationship? Why would I offer a critique to someone based on my personal preferences? How is that going to help them? Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 10:12 AM Hi..Cobbler I was ..over the top a bit LOL...yes!:laugh: But the real fact is the same..besides the bible speaks of how a man or woman should handle a matter well.... as well as speaking the TRUTH....I feel that stands for all things.... and all people of God. I would say thank God that this person checked out early before a lot of investment was made...Besides who wants to find a mate that runs from the responsibility of dealing with matters of the heart ? God contacts you through your heart- it is best protected with all you have..until you know that you know she is the one... A relationship is one of the biggest investments we will ever make..choose wisely, with Godly wisdom and prayer. Someone who can not be honest with you now-may have issues with that latter. Sometimes we never find out why someone is not apart of us-but I believe there time in our life apart our journey has ended...We must become good with forgiveness, as well as the gift of goodbye Luke 16:10 Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. Post Reply
View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 10:41 AM @Mercygrl - Yes, it is true that if someone is not willing to be honest and tell you why they would prefer not to continue the relationship, then it is good that they called it off. @GodsHandiwork � If it is just a personal preference, then why not tell him. All he is asking for is a better reason �just because�. If you are looking for something different, that�s fine. But, there are times when it is something that very few women would find attractive, and it would be nice if someone would tell us. That�s all we are asking. We should all help each other out, help each other improve ourselves. We should be looking out for one another, not just be in it for ourselves. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	????? Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 11:29 AM Just because she doesn't give you a reason does NOT mean she is avoiding the truth, only giving a half truth, or lying altogether. Maybe you really just are not her type. Most women use their emotions to guide them in dating. Maybe she didn't have a specific reason. Maybe she did but didn't know what it was, or at least not what it was enough to put it into words. Would you prefer she said, "I don't have any idea why because you're great but I just don't like you and don't want to be romantically involved with you"? Personally, that would drive me even crazier than someone saying I'm not their type. Because then I get frustrated thinking, if they don't have a reason or don't know why, then what's the problem? But I have told people that I was sorry, I just wasn't interested and not provided a reason because quite frankly, I didn't have one. If I have a reason, I provide it. But I don't always. It's just something I know in my heart. If you're not interested in someone, it doesn't matter how amazing they are. If you're not interested, you're just not interested. Simple as that. Sounds to me like she just wanted you to know that you are an amazing person in order to encourage you that you have a lot of great things going for you, it just wasn't going to work for the two of you. If I were you, I would take it as a COMPLIMENT and move on. Post Reply

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