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DEEDEE72 View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 5 Oct, 2010 04:36 PM Would you tell your boyfriend if a married man at church was coming on to you? Would you tell your husband? Would you expect him to handle the situation or do you feel you handle it yourself? Why? Guys, your thoughts? Post Reply
View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 5 Oct, 2010 04:59 PM Yes, I would tell my boyfriend/husband, and I would like to say I would handle it myself, but I do not know if that would be my place to tell a man off for something like that. For one, what if I misinterpreted friendliness and was falsely accusing him? If it was something pretty blatant on his part, I would be sure to say something the moment it happened, that's just who I am. If it was more subtle and open to interpretation, I would definitely talk about it with my man, since I assume if I am with him he is somebody whose opinion and guidance I trust. Can't say whether or not I would want him to get involved by interfering with the other man unless something very direct and inappropriate was going on, or in my husband's presence. Then I'd definitely want my man to stand up for me. Wow, hard question... I answered that terribly. :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 5 Oct, 2010 06:35 PM I wouldn't say anything right away. I'd try to handle it on my own. If it continued and he wouldn't take "No" for an answer, then I would say something, and I'd expect him to be with me when we talked to the offender. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 5 Oct, 2010 11:10 PM Matt 18:15 than if that failed i would want to know, but if I went with her to confront this guy someone is liable to get hurt so its best if one of my Christian brothers or sisters go with my significant other. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 03:35 AM Actually I have just experienced thar. Well since I am still single, so I did not tell anyone. Tho I really hate it when he did that to me geez did he think his wife didn't have eyes and she didn't have any feeling? Anyway she didn't find out, no one knew except him and me, I think. To answer ur question, yeah I would tell my bf/hubby since I want to be very open with my bf/hubby on every single thing. Plus I dun want him to find out later but from me only, that wouldn't be wise and could cause a lil prob in the future, perhaps. Post Reply
View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 03:35 AM Actually I have just experienced thar. Well since I am still single, so I did not tell anyone. Tho I really hate it when he did that to me geez did he think his wife didn't have eyes and she didn't have any feeling? Anyway she didn't find out, no one knew except him and me, I think. To answer ur question, yeah I would tell my bf/hubby since I want to be very open with my bf/hubby on every single thing. Plus I dun want him to find out later but from me only, that wouldn't be wise and could cause a lil prob in the future, perhaps. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 09:34 AM i wouldnt want start problems but not exposing it would be worse. So, I would tell my husband for sure. As far as telling my boyfriend...I dunno, it's not really his responsibility to handle that type of stuff for me(in my opinion). It just depends on the circumstances. I dont feel the need to say something every time someone comes on to me. I can take care of stuff like that, but I am a single girl. My husband would be my covering so yes...he should definitely know. Post Reply
View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 12:02 PM Would you tell your boyfriend if a married man at church was coming on to you? *** If I had a Boyfriend I would inform him�Yes� Would you tell your husband? *** Absolutely Yes� Would you expect him to handle the situation or do you feel you handle it yourself? *** I would diffinatly handle it at that time�I�ve experienced this and have no problem stating the Truth�Its unacceptable to GOD and Me�If it did not resolve or continued�I would ask my Husband & Pastor or Senor Pastor to address the Issue privately� Why? *** I am capable of taking care of my self concerning these situations & doing and saying the Right thing at the Right time�BUT�I have absolutely no problem with a Boy friend or Husband stepping up and being who GOD created them to be�my covering & protector�I would express the Importance of NO Aggressive Behavior�xo Post Reply
View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 08:08 PM That happens at church usually with men who are struggling with lust issues, or women ...you can just discern this ...but so can most others as well. First time I would move away from them respectfully, and be kind and make sure I returned no interest...I usually wait/pray for more understanding. If I had a mate I would tell him this man may need prayer and help...but I would hope we waited on the Lords perfect timing...people who do this are usually battling something-that is manifesting outwardly..we cannot know unless we seek Godly wisdom on the matter..The goal is deliverance, and freedom. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 07:45 AM I'd start out by praying about it. Then I'd tell my husband or a man I was in a serious relationship with, but not someone that I had just been out with a few times or was just getting to know. But I would deal with it on my own, by telling the man I wasn't interested, making sure that I remained in public locations (no pulling me off to the side to chat), and changing my routine at church (where I sit, what door I enter, etc). If those didn't work, or in conjunction with them, I'd spend more time with my husband/SO at church. I'd be honored if my husband/SO would step in-kindly. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	WOULD YOU TELL? Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 04:22 PM Ha, the first thing I thought of was Matthew 18:15 and then saw Rabbit already posted that. The Bible specifically says to talk to them (the offender) just the two of you. If you talk to others, that's when the rumor mill gets going. My general rule of thumb is, if they do it once and it's hard to tell, I ignore it completely. If they do it twice, I gently but assertively make it obvious that I do not reciprocate any interest. If they do it a third time, I specifically tell them that what they are doing is completely inappropriate, sinful, and making me uncomfortable. After telling them this, if they do it again, that is when you most definitely should seek assistance from your husband/serious boyfriend and/or your church's pastor. Post Reply

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