If you want me to think that you are a creep, just do the following:
1. View my profile several times each week even though I'm a good 30-40 years younger than you.
2. Send me a message telling me how beautiful I am, and how much you love me, and how I'd make the perfect wife, and be sure to ask "Will you move to South Africa and marry me?" Oh, and this MUST all be in the first message.
3. Send me an IM, and within the first 5 minutes, be sure to include all of the points in #2.
4. Get mad at me and send me hate mail when I answer your message with a gentle "I really don't think we would make a good match, but I do wish you the best of luck in your search."
5. Ask for my phone number, email address, Facebook info, and full name in the first message.
6. Strike up a good conversation with me via IM, then start telling me all about that last girlfriend who cheated on you...yes, the one you found in bed with your ex-best friend. Be sure to tell me how that hasn't bothered you since, and how even though she did that to you, you've moved on and have no baggage to bring to a relationship. But you haven't spoken to her or your ex-best friend since then...just to make that clear.
7. If you are 22 or younger, send me a message or IM and ask if I would mind dating someone 5+ years younger than me. When I say that I'd rather not, you should proceed to try to convince me that you are REALLY mature for your age, and how you are ready to settle down with an older woman (yeah, be sure to call me an "older woman"...brownie points for that) and have kids. But first be sure to tell me that you still live with your parents, and that you have no job, you are not in school, and you don't really see yourself NOT living with your parents when you get married. "But hey, you are ok with that, right?"
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All of those have actually happened to me. If you don't want me to think you are a creep, just don't do those things!
Oh - I have way more tips on HOW to be a creep than NOT be one
CREEP: Immediately tell me how beautiful I am....... that I am the FIRSTperson you contacted on the site...... that you just KNOW God has a plan for the two of us to be together..... ask for my personal email because CDFF email and/or IM is too slow... send me flowers within a few days of meeting me.... use bad grammar and spelling.... ask me for money
NOT CREEP: Send me emails that reflect you have read my profile and are interested in ME - personally. Allow me to get to know you as you are getting to know me. Pray about me, (and hope I am also praying about you-or just ask). Post on Forums where I have posted, so I know you are actually using this site and not just cruising profiles.
Dictionary definition of creep:an unpleasant or obnoxious person.
How can a man be obnoxious or a creep, let us count the ways.
1. Following you everywhere uninvited. Also just because you mention you like the local hangout, he is there every night hoping to see you there.
2. Calling you all the time. Perhaps bad judgment to give out your number, but the guy obnoxiously calls at all hours and days of the year. Of course you don't answer his calls or text messages and he resorts to number one above.
3. Emails you all the time. Same principle as number two in giving out personal info like an email address. The guy obnoxiously sends you all kinds of unwanted messages.
4. Social Media. The obnoxious guy virtually stalks your every move online on every social media known to man. Big plus if he starts posting you tube videos of his opinion of why you should be together.
5. Someone that looks at you, but you feel like a piece of meat. Basically that is all they think about and are not concerned in getting to know you.
6. Essentially a creep is anybody that you must take out a restraining order to keep about 1000 feet away from you!
I hope you enjoyed reading this *completely objective and silly* post.
I know this is really dumbing it down, but could you also explain why those things come off as creepy or attractive? A lot of guys when starting out that don't really have much experience in relating to girls really don't understand why this is. Let us know how to relate better and actually treat you like people rather than objects or heroine with legs :laugh:
I feel that in most of the creepy guy experiences I've had, I made it clear that I was NOT INTERESTED either via email or IM, or through the "requirements" in my profile. Because the guys wouldn't give up, they were obnoxious and really made me uncomfortable...aka, creeped me out.
One dating site that I'm on encourages "Journal Entries" in order to be a fully active member of the free site. Here is something I wrote on there. If a guy would take this to heart and really work at understanding it, he very likely would NOT come across as creepy.
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Journal Entry by bcpianogal:
If you are reading this, that means that you possibly got past the "about me" section of my profile...that's a good thing! Now, I want to explain a bit more about myself.
First, why am I on this site? I'm on this site in hopes of meeting a good Christian guy (in my general area) who is potential husband material. I listed my "requirements" on my profile, and I do take them seriously. I also do NOT play games. If you want to play games, find another girl. I am not really interested in casual dating just for the fun of it. I would love to date, but I'd rather get to know you on a friendship level first, and then officially "date" once I know we are both really interested in a long(er)-term relationship.
Second, regarding communication such as on-site email and IM. I will do my best to answer emails and chat via IM. I have noticed that I get the occasional "missed instant message"...I'm not sure why, but don't take offense if I don't answer an IM. I probably just didn't see it for some weird reason. If I can't chat at the moment, I will tell you so, or I will turn off the IM feature for a while.
Third, about off-site communication (since it's always a touchy subject). I don't text. I'm sorry, but I just don't. It's expensive, it's not part of my cell phone plan, and I barely even know how to text. I do have an e-mail address, but I give it out carefully. Same goes for a phone number. I'm very careful when giving it out. That doesn't mean that you can't ask for an e-mail address or a phone number, but please don't be offended if I don't feel like I know you well enough to give it to you! Just be patient and honest with me, and in time you may get it.
Fourth, about that first meeting... OK, I know I'm on here to meet people, and one way to get to know someone is to meet in person. I'm generally a very cautious person, though. It is just not my nature to agree to meet you if I've only talked to you a couple times. Be patient with me, please! Give me time, and I'll probably agree to meet you if I like what I've seen. Once I do agree to meet you, I would prefer to meet in a VERY public place where I am completely comfortable...preferably in my hometown of Athens. If food is involved, I'd be most comfortable if we each pay for our own. That way, it's not really a "date," but rather just a friendly meeting.
I hope this journal entry will give you some insight into who I am when it comes to online dating.
The creepiness comes from unwanted advances or contact. If the girl is into you, she will let you know. If she avoids going to the same store because you work there or goes out of her way to go to a different church or something she is telling you she does not want your attention. Does that make sense?
Eh. Creepers are those people (to exact, men) who do not understand English. The exact English phrase is "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU", whether it's implicitly or explicitly (this is the worst type of creepers - who don't understand explicit language). Then, keep asking the same questions, repeating the same sentences, doing the same actions, you know like the guinea pig who runs in that circle thing over and over again and just never stops. I believe that the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over again but expect different results.
That is how to be a creep, and not to be a creep is just the opposite of those actions.
God, please keeps creeps away from me lol :prayingm:
Men who are creepy, or who exhibit creepy behavior, are more intersted in themselves than the woman. They are more interested in saying what they want to say when they say it how they say it then in listening. Ever. They are more interested in using the same formula (i.e. actions or phrases or compliments) over and over and over rather than trying to find out what the woman enjoys or wants. Men who are creepy are self-centered and don't listen and repeat the same mistakes with women over and over and over. JMHO
