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Admin	reading mail Posted : 28 Jun, 2010 09:43 PM I have been on this site for a couple weeks, and I have been sending mail everyday. My questions is that most of the girls I could be interested in read my mail, then simply don't mail back. Not even a "We would not be a good match". Why is that? Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 28 Jun, 2010 11:23 PM This topic comes up here constantly... LOL I answer almost all of my messages, so I'm not sure why other women don't. It's possible they're no longer active on the site... You may want to try filling out your profile a little more... Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 02:10 AM I love it when they read my messages veiw my profile and don't say anything. repeat this process 5-6 times and you have my experience on here. Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 02:12 AM oh yeah, and it's even better when they have on their profile some non-sense about how outgoing they are or how they like to meet new people or make friends. Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 07:52 AM I believe what it boils down to is that ppl don't use the normal common curtesy that they would in use in real world time online. Being a very confrontational person, I have learned that as a general rule many are nonconfrontational. They find it easier to say nothing than to say 'not a good match', especially women. Some women also want to be 'pursued'. Be thankful when the noncommunicative, immature and 'not ordained by God' don't respond. Post Reply
LincolnAdams View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 10:30 AM I do the same thing, if I'm not interested I not only do not respond to their email, I don't even read it either. I just don't see the point, honestly. It has nothing to do with them personally, I simply don't see them as being a good match for ME, based on their profiles and photos. Would it be more tactful to say I'm not interested? Sure, but I have never seen a girl afford me that kind of courtesy, so why should I? It's a cold world my brutha. To be fair, I do think the Internet has made us far more ruder and impersonal than we otherwise would normally be in real life. Even my closest friends leave me in mid conversation on IM or never respond to my emails, but because I know them personally, I can blow it off. Plus when I see them in real life I have the satisfaction of turning the garden hose on them for not getting back to me. :winksmile: So if you see that a girl viewed your profile and read your email but hasn't responded, move on. She's just not into you. Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 11:35 AM I try and answer them all, even if it's just a "no thanks" reply. It's a christian site, and I don't think you should just blow someone off, especially if they took the time to email you lol. Winks on the other hand I may ignore, since it doesn't really tell me much. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 04:03 PM I try to answer all my emails on here, even if it's just to say that I'm not interested. The only times I don't answer are when the initial email is inappropriate and does not even deserve an answer. I'm also not wanting to argue with anyone, so if the email simply attacks me, my profile, or something I said on the forums, and does not invite a mature discussion, I don't respond. Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 04:39 PM i will try and fill out my profile more...and i know exactly what you mean, they say if you're interested message me and we can talk. evidently there not interested mutually, but in my opinion you can at least send me the"I dont think we would be a good match" option Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 04:44 PM You may want to add more to your profile .. just saying Post Reply
View Profile History	reading mail Posted : 29 Jun, 2010 07:16 PM The reason this stings is because we take it personally. Lets think of it another way. If I offer a girl a piece of gum and she says no, I assume its because she doesn't want any gum. When we send a girl a message and she doesn't reply we assume its because she doesn't like/want us. This is a fair assumption but let me point out a few things in their defense. 1) They don't know you. Try not to take it personally, they only know what they see and read in your profile. That's it. 2) We all come to subconscious conclusions. Remember, attraction is not a choice. Not just women. I will confess that when I get message from someone that I do not see myself with, I typically ignore it. 3) These conclusions are based on minimal information. This happens to everyone who views a profile. We have a set of values in our mind that we are searching for. If the information in the profile counteracts or is not addressed in relation to our values we typically dismiss it. This is not a knock on you, simply put, in the opinion of the receiver you two are not meant to be together. 4) She doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Sure, in practice it might be counter active. But lets face it. If you opened your inbox everyday and received all those dismissals in the form of a message you would get pretty demoralizing. So in the end it's actually a mental benefit. Post Reply

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