Author	Thread: STD
Admin	STD Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 05:45 PM Ladies: if 1 out of 4 has herpes, not to mention other Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD). Is that a concern for you? or is it not, if you are of the position God has picked this man for you? Then, when are these issues discussed? Most on this site, profess to obstain from pre-marital sex. How does one "prove" it? Is it totally outrageous to get a doctor's note? I know i would get one to give. And, hey, let's be gut honest. Who would knowingly date a man with a STD? Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 07:01 PM Are STDs a concern? Yes Would I date someone knowing they had an STD? If I felt God wanted me to, then yes I would. I would have to be sure, of course, that it was God's leading. When are these issues discussed? Well...... I would think you'd have an idea of a sexual history after spending time together and talking. If not -- ask. For myself, it would have to be after several months of steady dating and face-to-face contact before I felt comfortable enough to take it to that level. And I'd have to pray about it ahead of time. Each couple would have to decide how to "prove" it, when their relationship reached that level. If I were to ask for a doctor's report I would have no hesitation getting one myself and producing it. It would only be fair. There are other things that can be just as bad (in different ways) as an STD. I don't expect my future husband to be perfect, as I am far from it. If it was the man God had for me, then I know we would be able to work it out with prayer and communication. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	STD Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 07:20 PM Not me! :laugh::goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 07:32 PM Ladies: if 1 out of 4 has herpes, not to mention other Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD). Is that a concern for you? or is it not, if you are of the position God has picked this man for you? Then, when are these issues discussed? Most on this site, profess to obstain from pre-marital sex. How does one "prove" it? Is it totally outrageous to get a doctor's note? I know i would get one to give. And, hey, let's be gut honest. Who would knowingly date a man with a STD? Yes it was a concern even when I was married. It will always be a concern to me, that will probably never change. When the issues are discussed I hope the time would be comfortable enough to be discussed anytime but only when the other party seems to find that time. I don't think I would ask someone to prove their choice in not having pre marital sex. I would know that it wasn't me he ACTED otherwise on LOL so I would have to go with I would just have to catch him lying lol ....and I would help my match by not discriminating his past actions to actually ask him for a doctors note. I know I can be emotional with some issues But, with the right man I think that I am capable and able to work things out to get better results for the partnership (relationship).GivenLife Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 07:37 PM And, hey, let's be gut honest. Who would knowingly date a man with a STD? to be gut honest I dont know if anyone would say you want to go out I have STD...so one out of 4 of us probably already has if you been out lately....just saying you never know huh? GivenLife Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	STD Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 07:43 PM Amen my sisters! I'm pretty much in agreement with your views... If God is "really" in this, I'm sure He's going to work out all the other stuff. God has not however, called us to be "unwise". We pray for wisdom all the time, so some "wisdom" about which direction should become clear once all is known and discussed. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	STD Posted : 27 Jan, 2010 12:39 AM These are good questions. I've never really had to deal with them, but I suppose I'd like to know before things got too serious, but probably not right away. If the guy had earned my trust and proven himself to be genuinely interested in me for the right reasons, then that may be a good time to talk about it. As for getting a pre-marital testing done, I think that's a great idea - not just for STD's, but for other possible complications as well. I've heard of people who found out they were sterile for some reason, but had no idea! Someone may have issues that are no fault of theirs, but that need to be discussed before the marriage night - so yes, I would think seeing doctor before the wedding night is a good idea. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	STD Posted : 27 Jan, 2010 06:51 AM I don't know if I'd necessarily ask a guy to get tested before we married...it would depend on the circumstances. After all, if I trust a guy enough to marry him, I should hope I would trust him enough to believe that he is telling the truth about virginity (or lack of it) and STDs. If he is a virgin (as I am), there should be no real worry, though I know he could lie about that. I suppose it's something to talk about, and I think both people should be willing to be tested. It would at least be a sign that they are telling the truth if they say they aren't worried about it coming back positive. BUT, there are other ways of getting communicable diseases. I've heard horror stories about people who had to have blood transfusions, and wound up with some disease. Would finding out that fact about a fiance make me call off a marriage? I don't know. I guess talking about STDs and testing is just something to do as a couple before marriage. Similar to talking about birth control before the wedding night...it might be awkward, but I'm pretty sure it's gonna be a lot more awkward if you don't. Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 27 Jan, 2010 07:03 AM my x wife was from overseas she was required by law to be tested to come to the USA. So, I knew before hand.I told her about me.Clean as a whistle. When my parents got married they had to be tested by law. However, that was back in the 1960's. What are your state laws? Will your future spouse show you the medical files? In most cases if you follow christian guide lines you will know soon enough.To say you want proof is a little out of line.Just getting the premarital test done for me took care of that. Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 27 Jan, 2010 02:19 PM Oh my...very personal an serious stuff this is. Well...I just know that people are people. Good, bad an indifferant. Since we all aren't perfect an some have been around the block a few times...I strongly believe it is very important to verify health issues prior to Marriage an Private intimicy's...So if the potential relationship is blossoming an a good GOD blessed match...then I would have no fear of bringing it up for discussion and offer my clean bill of health and ask the same in return. Its bout respect. If the Gent balked at this...then...well...:stop:...I'm all bout no judgement, forgiveness an unconditional love, but also know that GOD doesn't want me to risk my health an life...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 27 Jan, 2010 06:42 PM If i am being honest i have had a guy try to talk to me who had herped b4!!!! it honestly freaked me out bc he treated it like it was no big deal..... i know as christians we are supposed to be forgiving and we are not to judge but i am a virgin and i want my first sexual encounter to be guilt free and risk free.......i mean i would never go out with a guy that i knew had an STD.....im not trying to be shallow or judgemental but im trying to be honest!!! As for God speaking to me and telling me to be with that person i would have to know without a shadow of a doubt that it was god and even then i would still probably be single than to risk it!!! again im only trying to be honest!! Post Reply

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