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stormcountry33

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 07:56 AM

Hey ladies, just posing a question for you.... When looking for guy, are you more attracted to the tough/outlaw kind of guy or are you more into the Coward? Now let me explain "the coward". Kenny Rogers had a song call "Coward of the County" and in that song there is a young man who is considered a coward, yet when push comes to shove he makes a strong stand for his girl. The first appearance of this kind of guy is that he is perhaps weak and not strong enough to "protect" you. However, he is perhaps more of a gentle bear that when pushed, will protect his family. So I guess my actual question is...



When looking for a guy, will women look for the tough guy first or is there that instant that a women can see the gentle bear for what he is?



Hope this makes sense and isn't crazy talk, haha!!

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bcpianogal

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 11:03 AM

I think I'd go with the Coward.

I've never heard that Kenny Rogers song (not that I listen to Kenny Rogers anyway...not my favorite singer, even if his siblings are nice folks...yes, I know them personally.)

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 11:10 AM

Hey Storm!





I don't care how gentle a Bear looks or appears to be...he's still a Bear. Now a gentle Chipmunk...

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 05:11 PM

I have to say I seen the movie and love the song Coward of the County. I do like Kenny and his story's he shares in his songs. I would probably take a mix of the Coward and a tiny hint of the bad guy 2 and just knowing as long as he is the "Best thing that ever happen to me and it just work's....is a real good plus...GivenLife





another good song of Kenny's is the baseball song titled.

"The Greatest" :)

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 06:47 PM

I am attracted to the tough guy - not a cussin', fightin', mean tough guy. But a guy where his yes means yes, and no means no. He's not afraid to stand his ground for what he's passionate about. That's tough.



Yet, he's also sweet. Says the best things and he's funny. He kisses his mama too. He's not a coward, but a "wise" man - in that he knows when he's talking to a foolish person, and some battles are not going to be won. How does the saying go? A wise man knows when to be quiet. That's not a coward.



This guy is hard to come by....a sweet, manly man. Yeah, I'll take that one. :rolleyes:

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 07:18 PM

The tough guy would catch my eye first.



But the "coward" would be the one I was attracted to and want to be with. The qualities he has are way more attractive than anything a tough guy can offer me.

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 07:50 PM

Amen, GivenLife!! ~ GraceMae

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Posted : 19 Jan, 2010 09:43 PM

I am a sucker for the tough guy (not mean.... not cruel.....not a fighter) - just quiet and strong that makes me feel safe when I am with him. The tough guy that carries that inner strength because he knows who he is.

Yep - that is the type!!

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Posted : 20 Jan, 2010 09:22 AM

It's all about how he treats me (and others). Does he respect me? Does he respect his parents? Does he respect other people? I want to feel safe and secure (hugging is great for this!) and also desired. Balance is a key word for just about any situation. Will he protect me when needed, but still respect others or will he protect me while harming others?



One example that makes me want to stand up and yell "Now that's a real man!" is from the movie "A Walk to Remember" when the boyfriend walks in and punches the other guy for treating his girlfriend badly. But notice all he does is one punch and then he's done. He made his point and then he had the self-control to stop. He didn't hurt the guy too much, but he took his stand for his woman! (punching may not always be the way to go - I'm not advocating this, but you get the point).



Another example is from the movie "Fireproof" where the Kirk Cameron character walks into the office of the doctor who is trying to steal his wife's heart. He tells the doctor straight up that he'd better leave his wife alone - he says that he is also trying to win his wife's heart and that he has a huge advantage since she is his wife! He also holds up his fist and "thanks" the doctor for fixing his hand!



That's a quality I find attractive - a guy who has the guts to stand up for this woman when she's being treated badly or when someone else is trying to steal her heart, but who has the self-control to not go overboard.

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Posted : 20 Jan, 2010 10:26 AM

here'a saying that goes:





"It's not the size of the Dog in the Fight, but rather the size of the Fight in the Dog."



People have a way of stepping up and becoming whom they are suppose to be. Usually, it's when someone they Love is at risk.

I've seen women no bigger than a loaf of bread stand tall in front of Bigger Men and make them back down. I've seen "boys" give their lives for another human being.



It's all God...it's simply GOD in them that gives them courage and strength and allows them to do what they do.



It's all God!

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Posted : 21 Jan, 2010 05:15 PM

Personally I think the outward look of most "Tough" guys is always an eye catcher.



I think what attacts most women to this kind of person is deep down most women want that "take charge" type of guy that we all know and love "Tough" guys to be.



I also believe that most women are drawn to that type of person to melt that "tough" exterior and get to the soft middle. It is a feeling of accomplishment and satisfies some pyschosomatic fullfilment that God has instills in us.



In relationships we always want our significant others to stand up for us. And the same goes for men.. as Tammy Wynette would sing.."Stand by your man"



So they tough guys do get a bunch of glances yes. More so then the "Coward" type. But that doesn't mean there is no hope for the "Coward" type either.

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