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Posted : 9 Jan, 2010 05:23 PM

For discussion.... do you think it's okay to be on a dating website when you are in a "commited" relationship?

Factors to consider are: temptation, and it's misleading to those of us who are looking for a date.

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Posted : 9 Jan, 2010 05:54 PM

Doesn't that completely change the meaning of the word "committed"? If you're on a dating website while in a committed relationship, what are you committed to...cheating?



If it's someone who remained on the site after committing to a relationship for the purposes of a "success" story, then that's one thing. If it's to keep in touch with friends, you can do that through a thousand other places like facebook.



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Posted : 9 Jan, 2010 06:04 PM

Explain what you mean by "committed"? If this person has a relationship...why would they be looking for another? I'm not sure I am understanding the post.

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Posted : 9 Jan, 2010 06:18 PM

certainly all can define as of interest... this is what the post is for. One way to define commited relationship is that your dating partner think ya exclusive. I tend to wonder about "looking" for a friend... great to be friends first and move on from there - never happened to me, as in never dated a friend.

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Posted : 9 Jan, 2010 06:50 PM

No, I don't think it is ok. If you agree with the other person you are committed to each other and building your relationship..... you should not be looking on any other site for someone. Friend, activity partner --- doesn't matter. You shouldn't do it.

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Posted : 10 Jan, 2010 12:51 AM

For discussion.... do you think it's okay to be on a dating website when you are in a "commited" relationship?



Factors to consider are: temptation, and it's misleading to those of us who are looking for a date.



not if your in a commited relationship its not okay to me, the reason I am on a dating site is to try out more open options to finding a match. In other words "Looking" Exploring... just like everyone else...its not hard to explain... If I found the match I would leave the dating site but not right away...I would do it when the relationship reached that area, if for any reason the other party has a different opinion then the relationship to me is not very commited and I am not going to take it as such so, I wouldnt leave the dating site either.But, I would let the other party know I was still looking. It would all have to be open and honest communication or one is leading the other on...GivenLife

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Posted : 10 Jan, 2010 10:12 AM

It has been said very nicely by the others before me, but I just wanted to add my 2 cents worth.....

Although I tend to be a very trusting person, seeing my "boyfriend's" profile still up on a dating site would cause me to seriously doubt how committed he was to me. It appears as if those persons are holding on to "Plan B" in case the relationship has a bump in the road.... which makes them not very committed. In my opinion, once you have decided to give your full attention to someone, you do just that. And once you have decided to marry.... you are not married to them becuse you love them. You love them because you are married to them. Neither of these have room for communicartion with otherr singles on a dating site.

It is a recipe for disaster (again, in my humble opinion!):glow:

Remeber when your folks used to tell you that actions speak louder than words.......?

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Posted : 10 Jan, 2010 10:19 AM

This is my view.I man here met a lady here.He put her pic as his main and is staying here for the post.She is still on I think.This way they can write to each other here.

If you meet someone else off this site then get off.You can come back later.Dennis

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Posted : 10 Jan, 2010 10:52 AM

Once I'm committed, once I'm exclusive, or once I'm pretty doggone sure, I'm totally out of here.



It's not that I wouldn't miss you all - I certainly would. But having my smiling face on this site and in the forum would be misleading and unkind.



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Posted : 10 Jan, 2010 02:25 PM

goldenstarfish, good post. Very good truthful answers from everyone. dgr's comment, so on it! And, I am in very much agreement with cherished2,givenlife and pooch. Not much else I can say that hadn't been said.



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Posted : 11 Jan, 2010 08:36 AM

This is something I've notice in my short time of being on here. Several people are listed as simply looking for friends. This leaves a lot of options open as to where they stand in relationships. Are they single and looking to form something out of a potential friendship?? Or are they already in a relationship and are simply just looking for friends?? Personally, I think if you're in a committed relationship, you shouldn't be on a dating site. Like others said, it gives the wrong impression.

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