Author	Thread: what to say in a first email
Admin	what to say in a first email Posted : 3 Jan, 2010 03:18 PM I see women on here that i'm interested in talking to and I do read their profiles and try and ask something i read in the profile but i get no response at all. So I'm wondering what are things you should ask or say when you first message someone. Thanks Post Reply
hanna61 View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 3 Jan, 2010 04:24 PM I get the same thing. When I see a guy has checked out my profile 2-3 times, I will send a message usually concerning his profile. I think it is important to talk about some of the things in their profile in order to show them that you really did read it. You can usually gleen some good questions out fo the information that can begin a give and take conversation. Good luck! Post Reply
View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 3 Jan, 2010 04:30 PM I like it when someone takes an interest in something I wrote in my profile. Or they tell me why my profile caught their eye. Complimenting doesnt hurt either...haha but most women like to be noticed because of what is on the inside, not so much the outside(well maybe I should speak for myself), but all women want to be valued and affirmed =) Hope that helps! jennifer Post Reply
View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 04:28 PM :ROFL: Oh I think you should write I love you:hearts: Did we meet under the mistletoe at Christmas?:party: My funny statements have gotten many women to write me. They have told me I am funny.That breaks the ice.Then they relax and she is all yours. use humor to your advantage. also,tell her she looks much younger then what she really is. Then say why did you lie and say you are older than you are? This has gotten me far.A certain lady said I made her day. :eat: This is also important food.What does she like to eat.Ask her.Dennis:peace: PS Too all you ladies out there,HI!!!!!!!!!!! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 04:49 PM This happened to me on another site, so I feel "safe" sharing it here! I saw a profile I really liked, but I'm pretty shy about sending the first message...crazy, I know, but that's just me. Anyway, in his profile, he said that if a girl was shy about the first message, just send a wink. The site ranked his reply frequency as "replies selectively," but I went ahead and sent a wink anyway even though I didn't expect to hear back from him. The next afternoon, I got a LONG message from him. It was probably longer than I would normally appreciate, but there were quite a few things that made it a good first email. 1. He had taken the time to really read my profile, "journal" entries, and "match questions" answers. He commented on the parts that he liked the most, asked questions about other parts, pointed out a few things that we had in common (most of which I knew from his profile, but he elaborated on them), asked me some additional questions to get to know me better, and invited me to ask him questions as well. 2. His grammar, spelling, etc. was very clear and easy to read. It was friendly, not overly-wordy in spite of the length, and he actually called me by name more than once. :applause: 3. He said that if I liked what I read in the email, he would look forward to hearing back from me. I liked that he left the ball in my court...had I not liked what I read, I would have been comfortable saying so and would have known that his feelings would not have been hurt. 4. He did not send a fast reply. He took his time and thought about his reply. I know because he viewed my profile just minutes after I sent the wink, and then several more times over the next 24 hours before he sent the message. Anyway, all that happened just a few days ago, and we have exchanged one email each per day since then. Who knows if it will go anywhere, but he lives nearby so maybe there's hope that we will at least meet up at some point. Post Reply
Sundra View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 05:13 PM A question would be good, not a personal one of course, but something that would require a response. If you make a statement she may feel it doesn't warrant a response. If she doesn't respond to a question then I say she is rude and you don't want to know her any way. I've sent men emails and got no response. I think it is just common courtesy to answer someone when they ask a generic question. Even the heathen do that, . If they are not interested, they can let you know that if a tactful manner without rudely ignoring you. Even the auto responder that says sorry, but I don't think we are a match acknowledges that you sent a message. I've always heard the highest form of insult is being ignored. Maybe the times have changed, but I still think manners never go out of style. God bless and I hope that God brings the woman He purposes to be in your life. Sundra Post Reply
preacher2b View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 12:18 AM Most people are not on here for the reason's they say. A lot of people are just looking or browsing. If people were honest and really wanted the thing's they are asking for then couple's would be forming all day long. But as I said, most are just looking. Post Reply
View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 02:55 PM hey BC Pianogal good luck with this guy. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 05:35 PM Thanks dg! Post Reply
View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 08:35 PM bcpianogal what's the other site you used? Post Reply
View Profile History	what to say in a first email Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 11:00 PM Brandon, You could try... "Do you believe in love at first sight? Should I walk by a 2nd time? LOL or.... You must be lost cause Heaven is a long way from here. LOL Seriously though....just be yourself. Don't be afraid of rejection. Many women on many sites including Christian sites don't seem to have the common courtesy to give even a quick reply. Sorry if that sounds negative but it is a cold hard reality. But on the other side of the coin to the defense of some so to speak there are some women who will get tons of e-mails every day so it is nearly impossible to keep up. Be patient and don't give up. Blessings! Walter Post Reply

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