Author	Thread: All women.....How do you handle lust?
Admin	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 14 Dec, 2009 07:05 PM I asked the guys, so to you I pose the same question. Single or married, lust always lurks around the corner. You can't pretend it doesn't exist in the form of that handsome guy that just passed your path while out running errands, or at the gym while showing off his toned body. How do you initially respond? Look once, and praise God for His beautiful creations? Look twice, and pray for grace, guidance, and forgiveness? Keep looking and deal with the consequences of guilt later? I'm not looking for a textbook answer. I know what the bible says about this. But your honest reaction to this hypothetical circumstance would be appreciated. Thanks to all who participate! Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 14 Dec, 2009 09:34 PM When I first began my spiritual walk of trying to tone down the flesh from how I used to be, yes it was hard. Real hard. I now can appreciate a man I see, wherever, be it in the grocery store, fixing a flat tire on the road, in church, at work, anywhere-- now with a whole lot more restraint with my thoughts, and acting on the things we women can think of when we do see a great body build of a man. Yes controlled, practiced discipline. I know you said you know what the bible says and don't need a textbook answer here, but for me it's been scripture that kept my mind safe from thoughts and even acting out on lust. In the beginning of my walk, yeah, I'd do the double take look, but even then, what little Word was in me began working on me, and little by little, I started changing. A good looking man without restraint and bearance of the Word in my own heart could make me crazy! If my flesh gets antsy, which it does, I make myself put on the brakes, and it's the "scirpture" in me, that makes me halt on thought, or doing anything that is inappropriate including the lust thing. See, lust for me isn't always a turn on from the perfect looking guy, but a mans ways may spurn something in me too that could have me thinking "what if", "should I do that" - which is sorta a lust for me too--yall know what I mean women. That means I'm allowing my mind to wander on things and dream, vision, create stuff in my mind all the possibilities just a look and thought can do. EternalHope, I don't know how to answer this without using scripture. I mean we're here together on this Christian site, and all I can do as a Christian is to tell other believers how I deal with it because it's Gods Word that helps me handle it. * gracemae Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 05:33 AM I just thank God for his creation and then am careful to only look at his face when we're speaking (and not to stare). Admiring a person's looks is not lust at all, but it can easily lead to lust if you choose to dwell on the thought. We shouldn't feel guilty for noticing someone, but we should certainly feel guilty if we start "dreaming" about that person or constantly looking at them. It's a hard line to define, but I think you cross the line from appreciation to lust when you start using that person to make yourself feel good. If you keep looking at them because it gives you a "good" feeling, then that's definitely lust because you're using them for your own gratification. But if you just happen to notice that a person is good-looking and attractive and you don't dwell on it, then there's nothing wrong with that - just be thankful to God for creating that person. Post Reply
Tarasye View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 06:11 AM I agree, obsession, or anything that occupies your time or thinking that you wouldn't be doing if someone was watching is not something God sent. Tarasye Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 05:01 PM See, lust for me isn't always a turn on from the perfect looking guy, but a mans ways may spurn something in me too that could have me thinking "what if", "should I do that" - which is sorta a lust for me too--yall know what I mean women. That means I'm allowing my mind to wander on things and dream, vision, create stuff in my mind all the possibilities just a look and thought can do. GraceMae yes I do know what you mean....I pray the Lords prayer when I need the words on a daily basis. I have had it memorized every since I can remember. Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 05:28 PM Eternal Hope What I said to GraceMae applies to my answer to your post lol sorry to have left your name out. Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 06:56 PM dear folks, i know were all adults here.. but i gotta tell ya i dont find this question to be a very appropriate thing to be asking women.. much less christian women.. in mixed company either.. my thoughts are what is the thought process behind asking the question? ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 08:11 PM i just dont think women are wired the same as men. I have heard pastors share the value to have "men" retreat to discuss the lust factor and the challenges of seeing sexually attractive women. Most of the women who have posted have stated the physical looks of a man does not generate "lust", but rather how they act. Plus, how do men and women define lust? If i define it in the manner the post question implies, it would suggest sexual interest. Now, "envy" may be a better word for wondering what if he were my husband. Again, i may be totally clueless on this issue. For the 25 years i was married, i recall maybe three times that my mind crossed a line. I suspect for most men that may be a weekly occurrence. Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 16 Dec, 2009 04:25 PM cattlemen Thanks I will keep my ears and eyes open next time on an issue like this if or when it occurs. GivenLife Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 16 Dec, 2009 08:58 PM its a fair question and asked appropriately. it was asked on the guys section too which can be viewed by everyone. If a person doesn't feel comfortable sharing, they don't have to make a post. Christian women have the same temptation as non-christian women so im not sure what distinction you're trying to make there cattle. a particular post on the subject could be inappropriate but the subject itself is one of the most appropriate for the site. no sense dancing around an issue that is a crucial part of marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	All women.....How do you handle lust? Posted : 16 Dec, 2009 09:37 PM dear fury, i have one question for ya, is this a question youd ask your mother in public? ole cattle Post Reply

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