Author	Thread: For Ladies 40yrs and above
BlessedBenny View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 1 Dec, 2019 12:02 AM What is the biggest mistake you've made regarding relationships that you would young women to make? Post Reply
Iliachen View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 1 Dec, 2019 09:21 PM Forgive me for not being 40, but I've had experience in dating with semi-larger age gaps -- I've learned age =/= maturity. I've had some cra ppy experiences that have taught me this: Make sure you're the solution, not an option. By this I mean, as women, we want to feel safe, protected, and treasured. The problem is that infatuation offers a false sense of love. That's why I call the first 1-3 months the honeymoon phase. You've got those adorable butterflies in your stomach. Endorphins and Dopamine run amuck. It clouds your judgement. But once you're finally used to that person, you begin evaluating why you're even in the relationship. Some guys pretend they want true love, want a future, and are ready to settle down. But then they don't even put the effort into committing. In fact, some will hide their online harem from their partner. This is why, in some other posts, I'll tell both men and women to make sure they're putting God first. God always balances our emotions with our logic. God brings that wisdom to help bring about understanding. This is mentioned in Proverbs so much. I've had to balance myself out many times, because I've ran into a few guys who were such crafty sociopaths, they've even tricked me. But through serious prayer and asking God to guide me, I dodged those bullets. Post Reply
BlessedBenny View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 1 Dec, 2019 10:00 PM Wow, great stuff. What would you suggest to be some of the do's and don't's during the honeymoon 'butterflies in stomach' stage? Post Reply
Iliachen View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 2 Dec, 2019 02:21 AM Pray. Always pray. And pray that God speaks to you through His word, and people around you. That can be used in any situation, but that's literally how we should always live. I even say this to myself, because it takes that daily renewing of your mind to stay on track. There are way too many distractions these days, including dating websites! I'm actually thinking of leaving this for awhile. I have messaged a very small handful I felt take themselves seriously, but after I do/don't near back from anyone, I'm just calling it quits. This site is just... I thought Crosspaths was annoying. I now remember why I requested that Support just delete my old account... lol. Post Reply
BlessedBenny View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 2 Dec, 2019 03:58 AM Fare enough. how about the issue of sex? Post Reply
BlessedBenny View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 2 Dec, 2019 04:05 AM off the topic. I think having a profile pic holding a bold cigar on a christian dating site can scare a lot of men off hey. It did put me off until I took a look at your other pics right this moment. Maybe you should try the last pic (the full pic with your beautiful legs) in the pack as your pro pic and delete the one with the cigar. I'd wanted to send this to you in private but your page won't allow me because of your settings. Post Reply
Iliachen View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 2 Dec, 2019 06:13 AM The issue of sex? I'm on a Christian site, right? It's confusing, given the talk about me deleting my cigar pic in favor of a "leggy" that barely even shows my knees. Post Reply
BlessedBenny View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 2 Dec, 2019 08:22 AM it was a suggestion from a male perspective Post Reply
Iliachen View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 3 Dec, 2019 12:06 AM If you want to call your 13-year-old horndog response that. You may have the male gender, but at best you're acting like a child. Respect is earned, not freely given. You've killed off any chance of respect. I've been through hell and lived to tell about it. Earning my respect IS a big deal. I can proudly sat that the real MEN in my life have strong character, and treat both men and women with dignity, honor, and class. None of which I'm seeing in your passive-aggressive BS. Grow the hell up. There's a man I know of who's active in ministry. Before I even considered his looks, I was deeply moved by the godly man he is. Not only is he knowledgeable, but he has the wisdom and understanding that I see explained in Proverbs. I see the humble, giving heart he has, along with the fierceness and strong will of a warrior. I can say the same about his brother and those he works with, whom he clearly deems as more than just friends, but family. His biggest concern is equipping the body of Christ with tools to fight in spiritual warfare. This is the *kind* of man I want to meet. But you keep giving your cute little opinions, champ. You keep your cheap little gial of getting laid, on a CHRISTIAN dating forum, of all places. I've seen your kind. The only impressive quality is your suspended belief that you think your attitude is acceptable. We're done here, Benny Boy. Post Reply
BlessedBenny View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 4 Dec, 2019 06:49 AM Seriously, what are you on about? One of your very first comments on my post had to do with me not having my pic on my profile and how that can easily make me a catfish. I thought of it and put up a pic, It was your opinion but I saw wisdom in it. I then gave you a suggestion when you spoke about not finding a guy and how you wish to quit all this and yet you couldn't take that suggestion. It's ok if you don't want to take the suggestion which was a suggestion and not a command and if that fits me into the description above then thats cool... But your chances of finding good man with such an attitude is very slim so you might as well quit the site now as you're thinking of doing. Post Reply
Alligator View Profile History	For Ladies 40yrs and above Posted : 5 Dec, 2019 08:42 PM I am over 40. I DID read BOTH of your profiles. And your posts. I must say enthusiastically that I agree with Benny. Post Reply

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