Author	Thread: A Man's NEEDS
ChristianArtsy View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 6 Aug, 2013 11:47 AM Maybe you've heard marriage ministries talk about the things husbands need as opposed to what they want. If so, you maybe be familiar with these. Provided you agree with this list (I did not write) in what order of importance would they appear in your opinion, or do you disagree, or there other needs? Does it matter? The order is ALPHABETICAL ... and not my words... ADMIRATION/RESPECT: (encouragement, appreciation, to be/show pride in him) AN ATTRACTIVE SPOUSE (men appreciate the way a woman looks) DOMESTIC SUPPORT (peace and quiet, a need for the spouse to take care of things) RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP ( having fun with his wife) SEXUAL FULFILLMENT (in a sexual marriage, he must be satisfied) Accordion to what I've heard and read, this would be the list of NEEDS for the women IN MARRIAGE, in order that I did not write.. Still deciding if I agree with the order of importance. AFFECTION CONVERSATION: HONESTY AND OPENNESS FINANCIAL SUPPORT COMMITMENT TO FAMILY Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 6 Aug, 2013 05:28 PM I agree and as a woman I need every one of these from a man and I man all of them but I would add as a woman I need safety and man needs the respect. but if I'm going to kiss you I nee to want to (I need to be attracted to you....one of the BIG points of marriage is to get what you can't single love in the Biblical way we want it too. I get need quite time; when I get up in the morning and home from work don�t talk to me for at least an hour. But men need to tell me they don�t feel like talking right now (I can respect that) or it feels like rejection. Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 6 Aug, 2013 08:54 PM I can agree with both of those lists, for after marriage. Regular sex is necessary to maintain the emotional bond in marriage, but it is not good to be had before marriage. Tends to destroy the motive for marriage, for what motive would a man have to marry if he's already getting what he wants? I think a lot of trouble starts when men claim they need sex before marriage, but women need to feel loved first. Well, I do, anyway. And I would not marry a man without ensuring there is love on both sides. I've been surprised a couple of times, once by a fiance and once by a husband, to discover he did not love me--after the fact. I found out because both cheated. So, now I'm extra careful. --Cat Post Reply
ChristianArtsy View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 7 Aug, 2013 07:19 AM I feel you totally, no one IMO should speak before 9am, unless there's an emergency. I'm one of those eyes closed, mediating kind of people. Not so easy when you have someone on a pack bus beside you, describing how they spend last night in great detail on cell at 6:30am, I would so love it when "He"wanted quiet time. My dad and I joke about that. My mother's hobby is talking, constantly. I completely get that. Post Reply
ChristianArtsy View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 7 Aug, 2013 07:38 AM @ Cat4Christ777 Yeah, I agree you with. Men need sex period, married or not, that doesn't mean its right when its not. We need the intimacy, affection, and apparently men do indeed understand that about us. Otherwise men wouldn't supply us with our need in order to have theirs satisfied. None the less, out side of marriage, sex is empty, impure. Made the same mistakes, but its so very awesome that we have a God who not only cares, understands and forgives, he picks us up, brushes us off, wipes our little imperfect faces, and says Baby Girl (Apple of My Eye if you prefer), I got bunches of good stuff for you, takes our itty bitty hand in His strong right one and says, 'this way'. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 8 Aug, 2013 05:50 AM Whoawhoawhoa, just wanted to jump in here, although I do agree that sex should be after marriage, I just wanted to point out that sex is not the only reason a man gets married, and many people who do have sex before marriage, still get married. Not all men are sex-crazed animals, just sayin'.:goofball: :peace::peace: Post Reply
ChristianArtsy View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 8 Aug, 2013 10:28 PM Hope you're not suggesting I said men are sex crazed.. my post was based on a Christian Ministry's article where the NEEDS of men was high lighted as mentioned before. I don't see sex being on the top of the list as such a suggestion and IMO I agree with that. I don't see it as a negative either. Guess its how one looks at it. God gave it to be a good thing, man makes it not so good.. course I'm focusing on one specific issue and not the entire rest of the article or the needs of each partner in a marriage at the moment... Post Reply
View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 9 Aug, 2013 09:23 PM The original question was "in what order of importance would they appear in your opinion, or do you disagree, or there other needs? Does it matter?" I don't think the order matters at all. All the things you listed are important except, for me, I wouldn't want to rely on my wife for financial support. So, "financial support" would be on the bottom of my list. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 10 Aug, 2013 06:58 PM No, ChristianArtsy, that was actually directed at Cat, I think we posted pretty close together, I didn't see that post by you until after I posted mine. I probably should have targeted it more, sorry about that! :peace::peace: Post Reply
ChristianArtsy View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 11 Aug, 2013 06:51 AM @DHTM No worries, just wanted to make sure of my meaning, Thanks Post Reply
thewanderer View Profile History	A Man's NEEDS Posted : 14 Aug, 2013 10:34 PM I agree that all those list are few of the many ingredients of a happier, and fulfilling relationship. I would add that not all may be needing them as we have completed ourselves even before the "other" has arrived in our lives. It is very important for the couples to discuss them early in the relationship. We all have our own love languages, depending on how we were brought-up in the family, in the society we are in, and some other factors. Presence of assumptions and expectations are ingredients of a disastrous relationship. Post Reply

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