Author	Thread: Rudeness
thaumasios^ View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 25 Oct, 2011 05:42 PM Hi girls, I'm just wondering what is the deal with women who see your email, look at your profile, don't even read your email, and ignore you. SO rude! I know an attractive woman must have a lot of emails to go through on a daily basis, but I think that's a bit too far. There are lots of women who've winked at or emailed me who I'm not interested in, and I've written every one of them back with a polite note and a wish for God to bless them in their search, and I DON'T use the site's rubber-stamp "no thanks" thing, either. Just common courtesy. Your thoughts? Vic Post Reply
View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 01:49 AM This gets brought up a lot. Like almost word for word. It doesn't really change anything though. All you can do is stay positive anyway. Good luck. Post Reply
thaumasios^ View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 05:44 AM Yeah, I know--and I usually do. Just hit the limit this time, though! :-) Have a good one, bro! Post Reply
View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 09:37 AM This topic is brought up more than once on this site. Usually, I for one answer all winks and messages. However, I find MEN write back only once sometimes not at all then they will disappear. So men are Rude on CDFF also. Not sure what these people are looking for, most likely not a good mature relationship. Post Reply
thaumasios^ View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 09:49 AM Hi Angel, Oh, I'm certainly not saying it's limited to women, but they're the only ones I write. :-) I think you're right--don't know what they're looking for, but it's not a mature relationship. Have a great day in Him! Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 12:26 PM Yep--this topic comes up fairly often. Like anything else in life you can choose to look at it negatively or NOT. Thau--while you may think it good manners to respond to every single email or every wink you receive. Just as many people feel the opposite and they, like you-- have their reasons for thinking and feeling as they do. You need to know something right off the bat, just because you write to someone --and you don't hear back from them--if they have not accessed your email at all, chances are they have not logged into this site in awhile. You may be writing to a profile that is no longer viable. There is no way to know that here if a profile has not been active in awhile. So why you may be thinking it rude of someone not to even read your email--they may not even be an active member here to know they have mail. Also, I think the second most common reason why women do not respond to emails AFTER they have actually read the email sent them--is basically a fear of reprisal. So often women have stated here in the forums that they had gotten email from someone not of interest to them. Instead of just ignoring the email they respond with a courteous reply that amounted to "thanks but no thanks". You would think this would be the end of it -- however many many many women have said that upon responding with a NO THANK YOU, BLESS YOU IN YOUR SEARCH--they get another email from the guy berating or chastising them for not responding with favorable interest. Women have said it happens to them so much that they have stopped responding altogether to any mail they get unless they DO have an interest. I, for one don't blame women for not responding to email. I just assume if they have an interest they WILL respond, just as a non-response is till in fact a response. A non-response lets me know two things--either she read my email and was not interested or she never received it in he first place. To that end--participation on a site like this you isn't going to work for you if you have really thin skin and are sensitive to the merest appearance of being slighted. I don't focus on the small disappointments on this site, instead I choose to focus on the positive people I have contact with and opportunity for new forging new relationships. Post Reply
Asher_Aurelius View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 26 Oct, 2011 10:33 PM How bout we choose not to take offense! Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 27 Oct, 2011 06:39 AM That works for me--lol. :peace: Post Reply
thaumasios^ View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 27 Oct, 2011 07:35 AM Good idea--I'll start now. Post Reply
View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 28 Oct, 2011 06:20 PM This is a common complaint with men and women. I also reply to winks and emails -- even if just to say a polite "thanks but no thanks". That is the way I like to be treated, so I treat people that way. Post Reply
thaumasios^ View Profile History	Rudeness Posted : 28 Oct, 2011 07:02 PM Yes, I just think it's sad that common courtesy is no more common than common sense these days, and it's especially disappointing on a "Christian" site. Post Reply

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