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Ivory_Guitar

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A question for women concerning "winking".
Posted : 22 May, 2011 07:39 PM

Ever since I joined this site a couple of weeks ago, I got a couple of winks and I was even favorited. However, I didn't get a message both times. My question is, what would you expect me to do in the case of your "winking" at me? What I personally did was message them and ask to know more about them.

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A question for women concerning "winking".
Posted : 22 May, 2011 10:14 PM

I don't really get why someone "winks" and then puts you on favorites, but never attempts contact. I've had several of those and I have thanked a couple of them, with no response. I guess they are just "looking." :rolleyes:

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Posted : 22 May, 2011 11:09 PM

I don't usually wink. I just don't like it. If I do favorite someone, which is rare, I also send them a message. I find it weird to favorite someone then not message them. It's kinda confusing if you get favorited then don't ever hear from that person. They same goes for winks. If you wink at someone, I would suggest sending them a message to make sure they know you are interested. Hope this helps a little. God Bless!

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Posted : 23 May, 2011 06:09 AM

The same thing has happened to me. If I don't get a message from the person, then I don't respond. If they do follow it up with a message, they always get a response back. But if all I get is a wink or a fave, then that tells me they are not interested enough. Everyone is different, though, and you might want to handle it another way.

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Posted : 23 May, 2011 12:37 PM

Being added to favourites may not mean they're actively interested in you as such - it's just a convenient way of bookmarking someone (perhaps to contact at a later date) with the unfortunate effect that they know you've done it...



On another site, I've added several women to a 'buddies' list - I've never contacted them because something seems to be stopping me, and yet their profiles caught my eye and I didn't want to lose them in the system.

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Posted : 23 May, 2011 03:14 PM

me, I never wink... and if someone winks at me i don't take it seriously, cos it just isn't... serious! haha



I even proved it, another girl friend of mine was winked at and she told me who did it, so I decided to view him to know who he is for her sake and a few min after viewing him (he knew i viewed him) he winked at me too.



A message is showing more that "I wanna know you seriously". Also, adding to a favorite is something that is serious too! It shows that they are either curious or interested so they don't wanna forget you!



I wouldn't message back a wink, it just is (in my opinion) sort of juvenile. haha... I would message back a favorite or someone attemtpting to email you... even if maybe their emails is shy and don't know what to say, they showing some guts in "I find you intriguing, please message back!" :) Thats just what I think personally

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Posted : 24 May, 2011 11:12 AM

A shame. I use winks as an ice-breaker (unless there's a specific question I want to ask) but if somebody ignores a wink I send, I won't then waste my time sending a message unless they've at least winked back. You might not think they're to be taken seriously but they *are* a first step initiated by the other half and your response (or lack of) will be taken equally seriously.



In short, ignoring winks will mean less people message you.:winksmile:

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Posted : 24 May, 2011 04:09 PM

dkj, ya true... ignoring a wink does send a message as well as sending a wink. it depends how the person receiving the message reads it. In the end everyone is different, and everyone is entitled to what they like or not like on how they can be approached.

Like in my profile, I specifically say to NOT send me winks or the kind of messages that just say "Hey, how are you." cos i'll ignore those. send me a message worth reading! And if they send me winks or IM kind of messages (on private messaging) I will ignore them, and yes, my ignoring those winks and sort of messages does send a message. Its written on my profile! lol



just a side note, I know when guys don't read my profile cos they send me winks when in the very beginning I ask not too. ay. hahaha

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Posted : 24 May, 2011 11:01 PM

Ivory, perhaps these girl's who have winked at and favorited you are somewhat old fashioned and want you to be the first one to make a move. They've let you know that they have noticed you and appreciate what they have seen and they've left the ball in your court.

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Posted : 25 May, 2011 12:53 PM

might be interested but not courageous enough to make the first move, maybe hinting something? lol:ROFL:

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Posted : 25 May, 2011 01:52 PM

Thank you all for your answers. I really appreciate them. Yes, perhaps it is true that they want me to ultimately make the first move. I guess that's what I shall do.:winksmile:

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