Author	Thread: Is it okay?
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 17 May, 2011 05:19 PM Ladies, Is it okay to tell a guy you like him? I met a guy at the Ren Faire, Found out he Wasn't married, and Well........ I haven't liked a guy this much since high school:hearts: so...I commented on his vidio blog, And Told Him So! (without gushing) Comments Post Reply
OutOfStep View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 17 May, 2011 07:00 PM I'm not a girl, but guys do find that flattering that a woman breaks the mold to show intrest. Means more than when I guy tells I girl, I think. And no gushing? Kudos! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 17 May, 2011 07:45 PM I have very mixed feelings about this. One the one hand, how else might a guy know that I like him if I don't tell him so? He might be wanting to tell me the same thing, but trying to figure out if I feel the same way...and I'm terrible at outright flirting, so he wouldn't really get many clues. On the other hand, I do feel that a guy should lead in the relationship. Shouldn't it be enough that I continue to talk to him regularly? Shouldn't it be enough that I do things to show him that I care for him? Shouldn't it be enough that I compliment him on things (character, appearance, achievements, etc.), encourage him in his endeavors, and make myself available whenever he wants to talk or visit? Shouldn't he step up and at least tell me how HE feels, or at the very least ask me how I feel? Can you tell I'm kinda frustrated right now? lol :rolleyes: Anyway, since it would seem that this is a guy you might not otherwise get to know, I think it's fine to make it clear that you would like to get to know him better...aka "that you like him". That's what my mom did to my dad. She met him while spending some time with her sister. By the time my mom had to return home, she knew she wanted to get to know him better, so she sent him a card thanking him for the fun times and saying that she hoped to see him again sometime. Less than a year later, they were married. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 17 May, 2011 07:53 PM My problem is going too fast, not being able to keep my mouth shut, and scaring girls off by seeming needy. Lol....maybe I am.:goofball: My dad always had a gift of knowing what people were like; having minimum interaction with them, and I believe I have the same gift. So I can kinda tell I like someone pretty early. But, I would love it if a girl were to seem all needy, because then if I did, she wouldn't notice! Hehe.:goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 12:48 PM I believe its important to let a person know you are interested in getting to know them as a person...otherwise how will they know ???...I've heard Gents say they have no clue until a Gal says something...:winksmile:...So...Good for you Debbie...:applause:...you have nothing to lose in doing so & everything to gain...the worst that can happen is you both finding out its not meant to be...enjoy & keep us posted...luv ya...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 01:12 PM Sure it's okay! Go for it, Debra! God Bless You! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 03:51 PM Debra99, I do not believe there is any set "Biblical" standard for who approaches who. In scripture, you see both. What's most important, is that you pray about it beforehand, and remain sensitive to God's leading - meaning you do not place your desires before Gods ;) Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 04:49 PM you guys and gals give me so much confidence! My kids are UNMERCIFUL(they're horrified, think I'm too old) I'm 52! not dead yet! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 05:09 PM "Not dead yet" Lol Use the opportunity to speak to them of the joy in being loved by Christ in another! And encourage them likewise! In fact....ask them to pray with you about it on a regular basis ;) Actually sounds like a fun opportunity to me and a way for your kids to love their mom :winksmile: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 05:24 PM I think you behaved totally appropriately given the circumstances. God's blessing on you! Post Reply
stegoodie View Profile History	Is it okay? Posted : 18 May, 2011 07:33 PM Too old huh? 52 is not that old. Shoot, I have a story for that. My Dad passed away in 2006 when my mom was 46. Three years later at 49 she came to myself and my three younger brothers (who were all still in high school) and asked us how we would feel about her dating again. I told her it's her life not mine and she deserves to be happy just as much as anyone else. I was not against it and even if I had been, I could cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it. My younger brothers followed suit. The smartest thing she did was to let us meet the guy she eventually started dating early on. I have my reservations about him but he's a decent fellow and I don't have a problem with their relationship. She'll be 51 soon. Meanwhile back at the ranch/the topic of the thread, I think it's perfectly fine to express your feelings. This might be a poor example but I'm pretty sure Boaz wasn't looking to marry Ruth until he woke up on the threshing floor to find his feet uncovered and her laying nearby. I also have my own example of how sometimes it takes a little prodding for a guy to notice. I met my last girlfriend through a fraternity brother who was dating her at the time. We had all stayed at college over the summer and were participating in a summer bible study group together. Because we hung out so much, she and I got to be friends. After she and my fraternity brother broke up, I had some thoughts about asking her out over the next couple months but was never too serious about it. Then one day she texted me out of the blue to tell me she'd had a dream about me and the bells and whistles just kinda started going off in my head. We were "facebook official" dating within a few weeks. Long story short: sometimes the message just needs to be received. Post Reply

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